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Brother in law has our inheritance and won;t hand it over. What next

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 14:43

It is about 10 to 12 thousand pounds each, money we need really to give us a fresh start so we can move to dorset.

Dp finally admitted tonight that BIL told him in December that he has the money. Apparantly it was just a case of closing two bank accounts which BIL did and cashed the money in December.

Last time dp spoke to BIL was December when he said he the contents of the savings account had cleared in his won bank account and he was just waiting for the contents of her current account to clear which would be a few days.

BIL will not answer the phone, dp has been to the house and they have been away. We managed to speak to SIL who picked up the phone FRiday, she was clearly very embaressed and could not wait to get dp off the phone. She said they were away Saturday but we should call back Sunday which we have and no answer.

Just to make matters worse BIL had nothing to do with dp mum while she was alive, we looked after her and did everything.

What do we do next?

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dizzydixies · 20/04/2008 14:45

post the address and we'll go round enmass

what an arse.

was there a will, are the executors of the estate still involved?

I would take a legal stand on this - they had no right

sparkleymummy · 20/04/2008 14:45

See a lawyer asap. Was it gifted in a will or did it pass on intestacy (no will existed)?

How is it that BIL has it? Did he just take it or is he an Executor?

littlelapin · 20/04/2008 14:46

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noddyholder · 20/04/2008 14:46

It sounds harsh but he has been so deceitful at such a stressful time that you will have to threaten him with legal action.Why has he got the money and what is his excuse for not handing it over?sounds a nightmare

MotherofUBERboys · 20/04/2008 14:47

id do something pretty fast if i were you. if hes had it since december, he may have spent it, and in any case, clearly does not intend to hand it over.

Pavlovthecat · 20/04/2008 14:51

You poor thing, this is the last thing you need to deal with at a time when you want to be dealing with the loss of your mother.

Get legal advice asap.

katz · 20/04/2008 14:51

send a PM to hulababy her hubby is a probate solicitor and might be able to advise.

TheArmadillo · 20/04/2008 14:53

I think legal action is the next step.

Sorry but I think you need to.

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 14:55

There was no will.

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Freckle · 20/04/2008 14:55

Go to a solicitor and issue proceedings, getting an ex parte order to freeze all his assets until he hands over the money. that'll make him sit up - or SIL stick a big rod up his backside.

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 14:57

BIL has not said he will not hand the money over he just won't talk to us.

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 14:59

I have told dp to just phone constantly on his house phone without break all day today and then go to a solicitor monday.

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dizzydixies · 20/04/2008 16:27

are you not near - can you not turn up on doorstep so he can't ignore you?

NorthernLurker · 20/04/2008 16:31

If there's no will doesn't it have to go through probate? (Whatever that is?) When did your mil die?

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 16:32

About an hour and a half away. Dp just hates confrontation

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WallOfSilence · 20/04/2008 16:34

E-mail him, text him, call him, post a letter to him... record them all. That way he has no way of saying you didn't contact him.

What way will it lie if there was no will? And how come he has the money anyway?

dizzydixies · 20/04/2008 16:35

its a very expensive way of avoiding an argument

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 17:43

His mum died in october i think. I have not been involved in the money at all. They saw a solicitor together, all that she had was money in the bank as she lived with her partner and everything was in his name. He died just after and everything went to his family and dp did not want to get involved in fighting that. So all that was involved was closing her bank account and as the eldest bil did that as dp was too upset to do anything. In december bil told dp most of the money was in his bank account.

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NorthernLurker · 20/04/2008 17:47

well he hasn't got a leg to stand on if he is intending on keeping it - if you die without a will the estate should be split equally.

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 17:49

Dp is still grieving and feels is disloyal to his mum to be squabbling about money. His mum only had money because dp bought her a house and it is equity from its sale. We tried to encourage her to enjoy the money while bil was always in the background asking about money.

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dizzydixies · 20/04/2008 17:52

which was very lovely of your dp BUT your bil is taking the mickey and will continue to do so as long as dp lets him

god, families, its true what you say, you can choose your friends............

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 18:01

I know dizzy. It is awful as the money will help us give dd a new start and i know dp mum would be angry if she knew what was going on. Dp has agreed to email his bil saying he will go to a solicitor.

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BetteNoire · 20/04/2008 18:05

In the email, get DP to mention that you are also charging interest on the money owed.
It's outrageous that BIL is taking advantage, and at such an emotional time.
I hope you get this sorted out soon.

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twinsetandpearls · 20/04/2008 18:16

Thanks. Dp thinks he is holding on to the money to get the interest. I cant see it being that much but bil is a real penny pincher. Dp says that he thinks that bil is pissed of that we are using the money to move away and that he will be trying to sabotage the move as he is jealous.

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dizzydixies · 20/04/2008 18:21

oh lord, well in that case the sooner sorted the better - if bil is complete penny pincher he'll bawlk at thought of legal costs and hand it over

agree with Bette - its YOU money and YoUR interest

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