Too much pressure on myself?

[ButterflyGirl26]

26 female. Earning 50K at present, going up to around £60K in 2 years time. Own my own place that’s worth 200K, will be paid off around 2030.

I know I’m doing ok. But I always find myself wanting more and never fully happy. When I see other people earning £60-70K, I look to myself and think I’m not enough. I know when I get to £70K I will want £100K. Like I’m never happy and need to chase the next to thing to ‘be happy’

I’m fairly happy in life but often feel like I’m behind in life. I see people driving the latest model of BMW and Audi and I get sad… I have a 2016 Polo. I’m sitting here saving like crazy in the hopes to one day be financially independent.. but not getting anywhere at all!

I just wanna go and be lux and buy a better car and have that London lifestyle. Why do I always feel so inadequate?

You are not alone - just Google "Jim Carey enough speech".

If you continue like this you will never be happy with what you have

There will always be people with more than you. A newer car, a bigger house, a newer phone, a bigger salary

Try and appreciate what you have and not what you don't have

30% of 26 years olds are still living with their parents, let alone not being able to afford a house. Now I just want to know what fields you and your friends are working in so I can advise my student children!

You need to work on your self-esteem. If you value yourself by how much you earn, no amount will ever be enough- there will always be someone with more. You could get a BMW then find yourself parked next to a Bugatti. It's a losing game.

Would recommend you spend some time identifying your values and doing something towards them. Would also recommend that you begin donating a proportion of your income to charity- doesn't have to be much, just something. It is the best way to free yourself from that awful rat race mentality. By giving you make yourself free.

I’m sitting here saving like crazy in the hopes to one day be financially independent.. but not getting anywhere at all!

Well that’s just silliness, and I’m embarrassed for you posting that. Whatever you feel like when you compare yourself to your friends, objectively this is just nonsense. Have a word with yourself.

For your envy - either get therapy, or work harder.