Thanks for your post MrsMoasty.
For the first group of expenses you’ve mentioned there, none of them apply to me apart from Christmas/birthday presents, so I need to set aside money for that. I don’t have any children or pets, I don’t have a car, all my utilities are all included in my rent (inc insurance, council tax, TV licence and Broadband) and I don’t receive any benefits.
I do need to get a cheaper deal on my phone, but unfortunately I’ve still got a year of my current contract left (I took out the contract in June 2023).
I don’t actually spend £300 on meals exactly - the £300 is more just money I’m setting aside each month for fun things to do that I want to do. In terms of the newspaper subscription, I actually like it so I’d miss it if I didn’t have it, and I use it daily.
Money isn’t tight at the moment, so I’m happy to put aside money each month for pedicures and eyebrow threading, as I don’t know how to do this myself and I don’t think it’s that expensive. Any money I don’t spend on this each month will just roll over into next month, so it’s not a fixed expense I have to pay.
Re the gym membership, I don’t think it’s very expensive and I enjoy it and also prefer it to walking/cycling (and don’t have a bike).
Re the language lessons and music lessons, I agree they’re my biggest expense. In terms of the language lessons, I studied languages at uni (French and Spanish), but focused more on French and let my Spanish go a bit. I’ve been taking lessons for about 4 years now to improve my Spanish and feel more confident in it.
I’d like to take a Spanish exam (the DELE, which is a life long qualification in Spanish) and am hoping to do that next summer - in 2025 - if possible. Once that’s done, I’ll stop the lessons. Truth be told though, I’m not really sure how to stop the lessons, as I do find them useful, but also I’m not really sure how to bring them to a close. I’m intending to stop them once I’ve taken the DELE exam, but I’m not sure how to actually communicate that to my Spanish teacher (I think,
because I’ve been doing them for so long). Any ideas on how I can explain that I’ll stop them once I’ve taken the exam? My intention then is to take a sabbatical and travel around South America for a bit and to basically use my knowledge of Spanish and Spanish level from the DELE qualification to make myself more employable (I speak good French already).
In terms of the music lessons, I started the piano a couple of years ago. I’ve been having face to face lessons since then and have taken my Grade 1. I’m lucky to have a fantastic teacher, but unfortunately she’s moving away as she’s got a new job abroad. She’s happy to continue teaching online, which I’m also happy to do, as I really like her manner and teaching style, but I don’t think online lessons will be as effective as face to face lessons. She is moving to a new lessons system where, instead of us paying her monthly for lessons and having a certain number of lessons over the academic year (as she works to the academic year), she is doing a new system where we can do more ad hoc lessons, so I won’t have the monthly expense I have now for the lessons. That will bring my monthly cost for the lessons down a bit.
I’ve got a piano at home (well, a keyboard piano) to practise on, which I bought not long after I started the lessons. I would like to continue with the piano if I can, as it’s something I’ve always wanted to learn. I’ve had a look at going with a different teacher in my area instead, but I’m not sure what their approach will be (although very open to a trial lesson with them), although I should say they are all generally much more expensive than my current teacher (who charges £35 per hour). I might see how it goes with my current teacher for our online lessons and then play it by ear.
Re the dentist and optician monthly expenses, I miscalculated that. I want to set aside money for 2 annual check ups and 2 annual hygienist appointments, and a new pair of glasses every 2 years or so. That comes to around £39 per month - not £160 per month as I originally thought!! And my spend on haircuts was rolled into my spend on pedicures and leg waxes.
Sorry, this turned into a bit of an essay!!