Farther passing

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Hi my farther passed away recently leaving all the millions he had to his wife of 7 years he made many promises he would leave me something to help me as I live on benefits due to no fault of my own ( industrial accident ). I will receive nothing until she dies. My farther also promised to leave my children something but nothing it’s not a small amount it could have helped us all. He also said there was a trust fund for my disabled brother who lives in a care home but nothing for him. She also has not invited me to go to my family home just nothing. My main point is I have decided not to attend the funeral am I right or wrong your help is appreciated.

Have you another thread about this under a different name?

What kind of relationship did you have with your Father?
Do you get on with his wife?

I had a excellent relationship with my farther went shooting twice a week together but he never let on about this he lied and said we would be provided for I do not get on with his wife now.

I decided to reword it as not many people commented on question about attending the funeral.

If you are disputing the will you need to speak to a solicitor.

If you had such a good relationship with your father (there is no r in father, sorry to be that person) why has he left you out of the will?

Just read your other post.

Only you can decide whether you attend the funeral or not. Personally I would, I love my Father regardless of whether he has money or not. I would also worry that you might regret not going to say goodbye.

I don’t know he has left it all to his wife it’s not just me I have three siblings they have been left nothing.

Your other thread doesn't suggest you had a good relationship with your father.

Either way, I think you'll regret not going to the funeral.

You need to find out about his will and if its gone in to probate. Or whether they have gone to probate as if no will exists (when it would all go to her) Either way I think you might be best contacting a solicitor and getting them to sort things and maybe also registering issues with the probate office - the sol can do that for you

The situation will depend where you live, you mentioned shooting, a very unusual hobby in the U.K. but more common in other jurisdictions. Get location specific advice. In England and wales there isn't anything you can do if he was in sound mind but i can't speak for elsewhere, i know you can't disinherit in some places.

As far as the funeral, your choice but wouldn't it be wise to maintain contact with her

Who has told you nothing has been left to you? If the funeral hasn't even happened yet then it seems odd to be discussing the finer points of the will already? That aside, I think you'll regret not going to the funeral.

How come you could spell 'father' on your other thread but not on this one?

I found out as I asked who was executor on the will as I was not sure if I had a roll to play I was told she was the only one and then told me i had nothing to come it all went to her.

Did he die unexpectedly or early?

I think you'd be awful to not attend your father's funeral over money. Surely that isn't all he meant to you?

It's extremely common for the husband or wife to inherit everything.

Go back and read again it’s not all about money it’s the lies he told us all and not helping my brother that lives in a care home. My family home has now gone also not even been invited round the house.

Who exactly has told you what's written in the will? Until you see it yourself i'd hold off on getting so upset by it.

Is it possible she was mightly offended by questions about the will before she's even buried him and lashing out? She might not even know what's in it yet.

I agree, the wife may not know what is in the will until it’s read.

What makes you believe her?

Inheritance and attending the funeral are completely separate issues
I got to funerals to pay my respects and for closure.
Refusing to go to a funeral because you are not getting inheritance immediately would look very bad on you. It's like you expect to be paid to attend.
You're call obviously, but if you decide not to attend make sure it's for the right reasons

Maybe he didn’t want to affect your benefits entitlement.

Op I would wait for the actual reading of the will before you get upset about what you haven't got. Your step mother might have said you got nothing but could be lying?? Who knows??? Also I would attend your fathers funeral, at least show your respect for him

I'm sorry to hear about this situation.

I think you should attend your father's funeral - it's a one-off event and you may find if you don't that you regret that decision.

Regarding the will, I think you should ask the solicitor to see a copy as you would expect to be a beneficiary. If having seen it you are not happy with it then you can take steps to contest it.

I would go to the funeral, if you don't you may regret it. You may find that your step mum was just upset that you were asking about the will and you may have inherited after all.

It does seem you had a bad relationship with your father and he could have changed his will years ago. A very unpleasant situation for you and I am sorry you have lost your father.