I feel behind , but I don’t think I am

[Crankypilot]

Im 38 from the UK and run my own company but I have always felt behind financially and sort of socially I suppose, my buisness does well but I still feel like I am the class clown at home with the kids and I never ever feel any sense of satisfaction with anything I do with either work or money which is a vicious circle because I think if I do more then maybe I will.

I think this makes me feel behind, I watch endless videos online about how much I should have in investments, savings, pension etc etc which I’m not sure if it helps or not.

I watch other people my age acting so mature and just getting everything so right

I want to feel some sense of satisfaction, the feeling of being content with where I am but I can’t seem to work out how to do it. Iv tried spending some money to buy something to show for working hard but that’s just a nice thing to have and it doesn’t make me feel any different.

iv started spending loads more time with family thinking that was the issue but it’s no differnt

has any one else felt like this and fixed it?

There is no such thing as a Should Have amount.

Your numbers are individual to you. The lower your expenses the less you need in investments for retirement.

Try to avoid comparisons. Hike your own hike.

what are your goals for YOU?

I think if you have your own plans and goals then you measure against that.

i have my own yardstick for me and when my eyes start to wander I go back to that and know I am on track.

I watch other people my age acting so mature and just getting everything so right

You're comparing your insides to their outsides.

I would think this is not a money issue, it's a self issue. Have you done any work to understand why you feel so down on yourself?

About two years ago it was suggested by a doctor that I should have autism tests, I did the first part and then Iv heard it’s years before we go any further. I suspect I am and wonder if that’s anything to do with it