How do you find a good divorce lawyer?

[lulupop]

God what a depressing thread title that is. Was just wondering how one is meant to choose a solicitor? The only time I have ever seen a solicitor was when we made wills recently.

I am in the unenviable position of wanting to see a family law solicitor to find out what my position would be in the event of a separation/divorce. Not very happy with the idea of just going to someone I've randomly selected out of the yellow pages but don't really want to go round asking friends for recommendations (for obvious reasons!). So how do you find out who's any good?

Oh God! I am placing my faith in the whole client confidentiality thing as it's hard enough finding someone to look after my baby while DS is at nursery so I can fit in a hlaf hour appt, never mind drive to another town as well!

Anyway we have no money, no equity in our house, and a lot of debt, so I'd imagine the only thing to discuss about any settlement between us would be how hilarious it is that a highly paid City trader and his wife have got themselves into such a precarious situation!

so go out of town Lp

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Can you not take the baby with you, lulupop? I often used to see clients with young children and babies in tow.

Please don't worry about the confidentiality issue. I have never heard a solicitor discussing the details of a case in public. Some solicitors might discuss issues which have arisen in some cases, points of law, unusual situations, etc., (this is natural and is essential for the development of law) but they would never do anything which would allow the client to be identified.

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Hi all I’m really needing advice, my husband has stated he wants a divorce, to cut a v long story short agressive, bullying, racist, homophobic, jealous, to name but a few recently started to verbally attack my son who has Autism/ADHD, this has caused huge problems for myself & son, last night my husband was screaming at me calling me names when my son tried to help me, he wanted to fight my son & told him he would drop him to the ground! My son is 16, as he came down the stairs husband lunged at him, tried to hit him & my son said why do you always want to fight ? So unfortunately he hit him & knocked him to the ground, it was appalling. It seems it’s ok for him to bully us but we can’t retaliate. So I need to know where I stand we’ve only been married 18 months & the house is in his name. Obviously we can’t stay & have to get a place of our own that takes money, would I be entitled to any money from this house?

Try “Vardags”, they’re the best family lawyers in London by a long way, and they do every sort of case - if you call them they’ll give you a free, confidential consultation. Good luck!

Sorry what does "CAT" in these responses mean please?