Sons 21st

[poppyd76]

My sons 21st soon, any ideas what to get him!

He works full time so earns his own money, bought his own car etc he's good lad.

If I give money what is an acceptable amount to give or not to give ?

I am taking him out for family meal just don't know what to buy gift wise or how much to give, I am fair from loaded !! So have to plan these things in advance cos of my pay packets etc

His dad , my ex texted me saying I am giving my boy £500 I hope you're doing the same !! Suddenly I started to panick, do I have to compete with this !!!

No absolutely not. Send ex a laughing emoji and forget all about him!

How about 2 tickets to something he loves? Or take him to a very special restaurant if he’s into his food? Or maybe a nice watch.

A nice watch would be lovely. You can also get nice books for day/year they were born. Or a framed newspaper front page of the day they were born. I’d text your ex back and say oh good for you - I might give £600 but I won’t turn it into a competition 🤣

Has he hobbies you could add to with new gear..eg: a new golf club he is longing for, gym membership, some equipment for a home gym. Or a new suit. Both my ds needed new suits recently and they would have loved me to buy them! Or a voucher for his favourite clothes shop? Ask him what he would like. Never mind the dad..l'm sure you have spent lots over the years.

My son like travelling and does a lot of cycling up mountains etc

So was thinking a 21st beer mug , St Christopher necklace as he wears a Garmin watch, so a watch wouldn't work and the most I can give is £200. And a birthday meal with birthday cake etc

Would this be okay for a 21st !

I'd do an experience of some kind - a day out, theatre visit, etc or a weekend away (just the two of you) depending on your budget. Not sure traditional gifts work as well these days.

This where I am stressing to do the best I can , regardless of his dad giving him £500 and Joe holiday to Greece!!!
! I book an experience for him also ! No way can I compete with him

What did you end up doing? I'm in a similar situation