Friend keeps asking for money

[Sengland01]

Hi until about a year ago my friend kept asking me for money but then I stopped it. Last week she asked me for 200 pounds and would pay me back. I said no and now she asked another friend and she said no this time but did last week. She also uses me for babysitting for the whole weekend which I've now said I won't do again.

She is very selfish and runs up debts and now behind her husbands back has more debt.

Am starting to question my whole friendship with her and if she is just using me.

Has anyone else had these problems?

Thanks

The more you lend the more they will borrow until they decide they can't (don't want to) pay you back. Don't be a fool. She isn't your friend

Yes, she is using you, if you are confused.

Is she a friend? Or someone you know who takes advantage, there's a massive difference.

Don't lend her money and don't do any babysitting for her. Tell her in advance about the babysitting so that she can get some other sucker to do it.

I don't think she's your friend. I think once you stand firm you won't see much of her.

Your idea of friendship and hers are two different things. She is treating you like a doormat. Sorry.

I had this with a “friend” not the one but a situation similar to baby-sitting. Once I said I couldn’t do the favours anymore due to illness, my friend disappeared. Stopped texting or coming over. Funny that. Complete user.

I haven’t had these problems because I wouldn’t tolerate this behaviour from a friend.

She isn’t your friend is she. She’s a mess and a user. Stop doing stuff for her! At this stage you’ve only got yourself to blame, you know what she’s like so stop being a mug. Invest in people who actually are your friends and offer mutual support.

Thanks everyone her 2 older boys are actually my sons brothers so hard to get away from her.

I have said no to babysitting and no more money ever and she has moved onto another friend of ours who is in a dark place. I've told my other friend to not do it.

This has cleared my mind and know am doing the right thing of stopping back and focusing on my real friends. She is a bit of a emotional user and pushing people away then plays the victim and questions people how they have the money to pay for basic things.

She is getting into major debt again but looks for other people to help her out.

Am completely clear now on the way forward.