Really fucked off with my mother

[SheepAndSword]

I have paid £250 initially for her effects going into a care home, now £300 deposit for house clearance. £100 today for moving antique items. £50 on clothes for her. Still have £650 left to pay for clearance.

This is all coming out of my current account. I guess if she doesn't pay me back I'll have to live with it but I am so annoyed she's ruining my budget and away with the fairies.

What happens if you say "I can't afford this, Mum - you'll have to pay from now on"?

I'm sorry your having money stresses alongside the stress of managing a move on someone else's behalf, particularly when it sounds like you haven't much say or control in the matter but doing your utmost none the less.

Have you got power of attorney in place? Does she have access to her own money and so can reimburse you?

Or if the council are holding due to her no longer having capacity, have you kept all the receipts so you can claim the costs?

By away with the fairies, do you mean your mother has Alzheimer’s or dementia? Legal power of attorney would help but it doesn’t sound as though you have that. CAB might advise

eh? Just tell her the costs and ask for a cheque to reimburse you!

YABVU to be fucked off with your mother just because you've encountered some unexpected expenses of hers that need to be paid. How is any of that her fault? Thats just bizzare.

Very hard to comment on with only a few patchy details. You need to explain in more detail in the OP if you want reasonable replies rather than people trying to guess what you are saying/talking about.

What do you mean by she's "away with the fairies"?
If she has dementia, say so.

If you have POA take the money from her bank account.

No I just mean that she's taking advantage of me and trying to ignore the £1000. She transferred over £100 today; perhaps missed out a zero. It's hard not to think she's taking the piss.

It’s in your hands then, get her to lend yiu her credit card to pay for her own items. Communication/relationship issues

@lotsofdogshere yeah I don't mind about the £250 to move personal effects or buying her knickers or clothes. I expected that to be my duty anyway as I know exactly what she likes.

I DO mind about paying for house clearance. I now have a white streak in my hair with the stress of it all. It appeared quite suddenly today.

YESSSSS she's paid it. Now I can transfer over £600 to house clearance to clear THAT balance and we're through. I can absorb the £250 and clothing costs. Absolutely not for house clearance though.