Regular poster but name changed as possibly outing.
My husband and I share all our finances. Into one pot. All bills come out of there. Never any issues. Every year he gets a bonus. It's always been about £2500. He puts this into our savings. The only money we ever really put a claim on is any birthday or Christmas money we receive. Our savings pot has dwindled over the past few years. Nursery bills and had work done to the house. All fine. However, I suggested having a nice holiday abroad this year. He didn't really commit to anything. He's told me that his bonus this year is £4500 before tax. No idea how much he will actually take home. He wants a new laptop. He's told me today that it's £2200 for a new one. I said well that's the holiday out the window then. He said we can do both. But use the last of our savings to pay for the holiday. I'm not really happy about using the rest of the savings. Plus the cost keeps going up and up of the holiday. Am I being mean by asking to have the money for a holiday? He hardly ever has anything for himself so I feel bad about it all. I'm not in a job where I can receive bonuses. What I get is what I get. So what's the right thing to do here? Let him have the laptop and then just have a cheap holiday in the uk?