I might be panicking a bit, but I recently left an abusive relationship (won't go into details) and had myself removed from the joint account asap, fairly taking what money I had deposited. I was left in the charge of cleaning and tidying up our former property (ex currently staying at their parents as part of a restraining order) and I ended up coming across a stack of opened HMRC letters addressed to my self-employed ex while I organised documents.
I was horrified to notice that he has several thousands pounds worth of debt to HMRC in self-assessment payments - which I knew absolutely nothing about - and I'm very worried now because he was registered with our joint account, as I understand it.
He's had multiple warnings from debt collection agencies. Because he was so financially controlling, it became difficult for me to see what was coming in and out of the account. I am just so shocked to find yet another skeleton in his closet. And despite his controlling behaviour, I still feel so stupid and ignorant that I didn't know...
Am I being over the top in worrying about any liability I might have in repayments?? I was removed from the joint account under domestic abuse regulations, plus the business was not under my name. It looks as though he was just ignoring them completely, and I have nothing left to give financially after our separation.
Please do advise.