Hi,
i’m really upset by dh today. For the last 3 years we’ve been on a mission to pay off debt. I say “we” but it’s actually me that sorts the budget, balance transfers etc etc. dh wants the debt to be gone and he’s not against us paying the debt off, but he’s happy to leave it to me, and gets fed up when I “keep talking about it”.
we have 4 credit cards between us and I shift the balances around depending on where the 0% offers are. 2 cards are in my name, and 2 in his. It’s always been ‘our’ debt, so I never thought it mattered who’s card we used for transfers etc. I make all of the debt payments as I earn a bit more than dh.
recently I shifted 5k onto one of the cards in his name as it was offering 0% for 12 months. This is something I’ve done many times. He’s never shown any interest.
today he actually looked at the statement and kicked off at me a bit about the 5k being transferred to his card. I’m upset bi his response as he’s made me feel as though I’ve been deceptive.
I’ve tried to engage him in the money stuff so many times. He always says that he trusts me to sort it. I also don’t see why it matters who’s card is being used- this is joint debt that we both created, and we are supposed to be a team😩