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Controlling ex DP withholding shared assets

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toomanyjellyfish · 14/01/2024 16:05

My ex was extremely controlling. In the end I fled the family home and moved to a rental. I was lucky that our fixed term mortgage was ending on our shared house because this forced him to buy me out whereas I think he would've sat in that house and refused to pay me out as a method of control.

We own a motor home together. I have wanted this selling for so long as we never used it and had both agreed that was best. We communicate via email only and every time I broach the topic (going on months and months now with several emails) he simply ignores me. It's infuriating which is I suspect why he does it but I really want this sorted as it's the last tie we have with one another.

For background, we were not married and we have one child together.

Is there anything I can do as I'm not willing to let him get away with this

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simplifysimples · 14/01/2024 16:14

Whose name is the vehicle registered to?
Do you have proof of part ownership?
What is the resale value of the motor home?

toomanyjellyfish · 14/01/2024 18:26

It's registered in his name. I have proof of the exchange of funds to pay towards it

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toomanyjellyfish · 14/01/2024 18:26

Resale won't be loads, I'm imagining around 4k

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hellojelly · 14/01/2024 18:29

With you not being married it obviously isn't a marital asset which is pooled for divorce calculations. Only one person can own a vehicle (although according to Google married couples can be considered to own it jointly). I expect knowledgeable posters will be along later but it sounds like only one of you can own the vehicle so I'm not sure what you can realistically do.

Bubbleohseven · 14/01/2024 18:32

If it was in your name you could take him to the small claims court but as it's in his name i'm not sure you can do anything. Sorry, it's annoying I know. Seems like he got everything at your expense.

simplifysimples · 14/01/2024 19:06

Realistically, for £2K, it will be more hassle than its worth to chase this.

You could try making a claim online to the County Court (small claims). There will be a fee to pay of £115. Proof of payment of funds is not necessarily proof of joint ownership. Unfortunately, I think you might find you're throwing good money after bad.

toomanyjellyfish · 15/01/2024 21:25

Sickening. Yeah he has taken everything from me he can get, claiming he paid for things and saying I had to prove I'd paid anything. He's a despicable human being and I'm ashamed I was ever with him

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workingitout75 · 31/01/2024 22:37

Was he reasonable buying you out of the house? Did you agree a figure and get it valued etc?

TooSweetToday2 · 01/02/2024 09:48

Is he paying child maintenance ?

I would forget about the van

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