Universal credit claim

[Chelsii555]

Really need some advice from anyone been in a similar situation recently I have been more involved with the children's dad after a really bad couple of years of his problems he's finally sorted himself out and made lots of steps to complelty been a changed person (I hope) he has been asking to move in he currently lives with his mum did live with his uncle but he passed away last year that's when he decided to make steps in changing I have said that before he moves in I want to make a joint account bills in both r names tenancy in both r names also be has a new job and gets double what I get I work part time so I no if I let him move in I will then be more financially reliant on him as my wages wouldn't cover a quarter of the bills I have coming out a month currently I am having the universal credit review that is going on with everyone with the bank statements and I'd I have submitted them but just waiting on the phone call to go threw them but people have said can take weeks and weeks and he wants to move in before Christmas have a fresh start in the new year but I don't no if anyone can help but can I change my circumstances while having the review will it look like am just adding him on incase they question me he's always sent me child maintenance money well not always only since January and when he got his new job has he sent me a regular payment a month I no I haven't done anything wrong there but speaking to other people they have just been like no they will class it as fraud and investigate your whole claim still then I haven't got nothing to hide as he's never payed any of my bills in his whole entire life or financially supported me apart from sending child maintenance over which I normally spend on food shop for the kids and clothes and bits like that but what scares me is that if I do move him in and start a joint claim and they decide am only doing it cos am under review and cancel my claim and loose money and the stress of it all or do I wait till the review is over and then do it it's so confusing on what to do the right way as so many thing online r really conflicting and don't want to cause myself financial problems right on top of Xmas if this is what will happen for just been onist if anyone can give me some advice anyone in similar situation so I can stop worrying on what to do

I no but how do I do that without over stepping the mark benefit wise like he can't stay we can't try do family things or anything like that without it been classed as fraud it's horrible

I've never had to worry before even with him been the dad as he's never been a big presence in our lifes only when it suited but now that he wants to be here and be around us and the kids were am I over stepping the mark I don't want to have a constant worry over when he can come over or can we go do things all together

So I feel like I have to join a claim together to give him a chance cos there so many conflicting stories on what's is actually living with someone and what isn't I feel like I don't have that opportunity to see how it goes for him to prove himself

@Chelsii555 of course you can do family things.
But if you live as a family. If he lives as a partner at your house, eats at your table, sleeps in your bed, for the majority of his time then you are a couple and should be treated as such.
But I would re read your middle paragraph to yourself and think carefully about how quickly you want to do this.