This may be more appropriate to the Carers threads, but would like max exposure.
Dad is very old and frail, various problems and is currently hospitalised following a head injury which has picked up MRSA(!) so he's in a bad way.
Psychiatrist last week diagnised him with dementia (not too unexpectedly), and incapable of taking his own medical decisions. I had thought that in these circumstances responsibility would fall on his next of kin but it hasn't - the medical team are now taking these decisions, up to now without prior consultation with us. OK, in the main I agree with their decisions, there's no friction there.
However, in the long term they have said 'we will be looking for a placement in a nursing home or EMI'.
Well, I am unhappy about not having a formal responsibility for where my Dad ends up even if it is shared with them. At the moment my worry only extends to medical and housing decisions, anything else can wait.
At the moment we are on good terms with his medical team, but I don't want them having total control over Dad's future and can foresee trouble ahead - they could decide on a 'placement' that we don't like, with staff we don't like, in an area we might find difficult to visit him frequently etc etc.
Any advice gratefully received.
Sorry this is a long one.