Who does what in your house

[BlueMumma2018]

Hey!

just wondering in your relationship who manages what? I’ve realised that I pretty much ‘manage’ everything; bills, food shopping, kids bits, Christmas and basically everything.

husband does share washing and cooking with me and does care for our child when he’s there. But sometimes I feel like my (full time) degree and everything else amounts to a lot more than what he does. He does work long hours but even if he didn’t he is hopeless with life admin.

just wondering how everyone else does it!

We are both full time teachers in my house. No kids yet but I'm currently pregnant. He does cooking, food shopping and sorts all finances. I do most of the day to day housework, washing and ironing. He will run the hoover round if I ask him to. I also walk our dog mostly but again he helps with thst if I need it. I feel like we split pretty fairly so far

Both semi retired but doing some work as well. I do benefits advice for a Cancer Charity 3 days a week and herself does supply teaching when she can.

She does most of the cooking though as she's vegan and I'm not we do our own some nights too. We do our own clothes washing in separate loads as I have sensitive skin and she uses biological powder and fabric conditioner - might as well put itching powder in my shirts!!

If I don't vacuum, change the bed and mop hard floors it would never be done!!

Both work FT, both studying for degree equivalent qualifications. 2 kids aged 7 and 3 - we each do what we can to get thought the day. I get up early and sort breakfast while he showers. he dresses kids while I shower then he leaves for work. I do drop off then head to work. He is home before me so collects kids from childminder, hoovers and empties washing machine/dishwasher. I get home and cook dinner as I prefer cooking, I manage the admin and money on y lunchbreaks as I'm at a desk and he's driving around sites. eat together with kids, then we swap over who's tidying and who's sorting bedtime. I'm usually asleep an hour or so before him.

DH does all hoovering, emptying of things I've filled (washer, dishwasher etc) bed changing.

Christmas we discuss what we're getting the kids and will both pick up bits as and when we can. There's a family calendar on the kitchen wall, with the meals for the week on it too so often he will start that off. Bills are just automatic DD every month.

what other people do isn't really relevant. Sounds like you feel there is an unfair split of the responsibilities - talk to him about it

Me: bills, birthday cards/gifts (I like shopping), meal planning and food shopping (again I like shopping), bathroom clean, most cooking, washing.

Him: dusting, hoovering, mopping, bins, washing up and any other task he is directed to do. In an ideal world he’d be more proactive but it is what it is.

Both do our own ironing and empty dishwasher.

Bills are via direct and every three months someone comes to read the meter, so they manage themselves.

Food shopping, varies, we shop online so throughout the week we both add things to the basket and it will auto checkout every Thursday to be delivered Thursday afternoon.

Kids things, depends, we’ll both buy clothes etc if they need them and see something thats nice, same with shoes and things. Appointments, again this varies, we just make an effort to put it on the calendar now so we’re not double booking dental check ups etc for them which has happened before.

Christmas, well we don’t really do christmas, but if one of us wants to buy something for someone we’ll do that, but its rare.

We have a cleaner, I know this is really lazy as I’m currently unemployed, so it means cleaning wise we only need to maintain, so cleaning after cooking etc.

I'm a senior lecturer he is a teacher. I do most of the home stuff. Kids are 18 and 24. I've always carried most of the burden. To be honest it's taken its toll and I struggle with our relationship now and think I would be better off on my own.

We both work full time, have a baby and I’m pregnant. My DH walks the dog, takes the bins to the top of the drive, mows the lawn and pays bills. I do everything else.

We both work, though he's more flexible/freelance.

I do 90% of the cooking and 60% of kitchen clear up, and about half general tidying. I do all the pretty and delicate stuff in the garden (buying and planting flowers, birder weeding).

My DD13 does 30% of kitchen clear up and her own laundry and her own room tidying.

He does 90% of the washing, ironing, laundry put away, changing sheets, managing house and car repairs and maintenance, taking out bins and heavy garden work like mowing the lawn and cutting trees. He does about half of general tidying

A cleaner does four hours a week cleaning toilets, mopping floors etc.

I definitely do less than him.

Oh and he does 90% of pick ups and drops offs for DD.

Married 27 years.
DH: diy, cars incl service/mot sorting/ cleaning, cooks 20%, irons all of his clothes.20% housework- hoovering and bins.Mows lawns. Works 8-6 M-F

Me: 80% cooking, all laundry, 80% cleaning, most gardening .Work 8.30-3.30 term time.

Joint: finances and all decisions.