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legal advice wanted....contact issues

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msann · 18/12/2004 12:56

any1 qualified (ish) to help?

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msann · 18/12/2004 13:03

its about my right to refuse telephone contact with my children... i have to compose my statement for court.....ideas? help?

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IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 18/12/2004 13:10

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IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 18/12/2004 13:11

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msann · 18/12/2004 13:17

i want to refuse telephone contact bcos i think my kids r too young, & i also find the telephone contact to b an invasion of my 'comfort zone'. i also believe that the children may take a 'i'm telling daddy when he calls' atitude, which wud make life unbearable. how do i stand on these points legally tho?

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IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 18/12/2004 13:24

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msann · 18/12/2004 13:28

ty....any other supporting reasons for preventing telephone contact??

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BunglieOnTopOfTheChristmasTree · 18/12/2004 14:11

I do not mean to upset anyone, so please do not take it as such.

I can understand why you want to control contact. All children will play one parent off against another given a chance, I think that is normal.

May I ask, do your children want to have telephone contact?
Perhaps you could compromise and arrange a certain day and time when he could telephone, say once a week or month or whatever you think is acceptable. That way you will have more control over the situation IYSWIM

I personally think that the court will look far more favourable on you if you are seen to be reasonable.

I obviously do not know your situation etc. but have you tried a Contact Centre, they may be able to help you in advising you.

I am sorry I can not be more constructive, but I think the only way the court will consider your application is if either the children do not want the contact or if it is causing them (and you, I think??) some form of emotional stress.

The purpose of the court should be to put the 'needs of the children first' this may not meet with what you would like, but if you can word it in such a way that it is detrimental to your children then they consider it.

I think as I said before you want to be seen as being reasonable, and that you are putting their needs first, hence if you can compromise to a set day and time this may help, and if he then does not stick to it, and does not phone then you can then ask the court to withdraw the telephone contact as I am sure it would be stressful to your children if they were expecting a telephone call and one did not occur.

I think what ever you put you need to word it from the point of view of how it affects your children, rather than yourself, although I do understand what you mean. Do they have any other regular contact?

IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 18/12/2004 14:12

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jingleballs · 18/12/2004 15:11

just a quick point here, my friend's in ur boat, witht eh phone calls, and didn't want to give out her number to XP incase he got funny with it etc.. so as a comprimise she takes DS to the phone box, and rings XP, XP then calls back to the phone box, I think she does this once a week, it helped her to be seen as giving a little bit, she also allowed him a 5 mintue visit with DS, herself, DH and XP. hope that helps with regards to the phone number issue anyhow.

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