Pocket money as well as part time job?

[SmallBlueDinosaur]

Dd 15 has a part time job, she gets between 25-60 a week, usually 60 as she tends to do both weekend mornings.

I've not given the kids pocket money really as I don't have much myself, however I'm now in the position to be able to give a little.
I have 3 dc (dd15, dd13, ds10) I was thinking of giving ds £10 per week, dd13 £15 a wwk, but then I'm not sure about dd15. On the one hand it seems mean to not give her any as she's putting the effort in working, but on the other, I really don't have much spare at all, and that would be £40-£60 a month I could use on food/bills.
She also pisses her washes up the wall so it would be an extra kick in the teeth knowing she would just spend it in minutes on crap.

Do I suck it up and give her the same as dd13 or is it justifiable to not do, but maybe give her some if she ever wants to go on a day out etc and is short?

Pisses her wages up the wall that should say

I would give her something, even if once a month, especially that you need the money for food.

OP you have no way of knowing what the younger kids would spend their pocket money on - because they don't have any. The point of pocket money is for them to spend as they wish, even on things you deem unnecessary., They're children after all.

If you see it as money you could 'use on food and bills' then you still can't afford it I'm afraid. Give them all £20 a month or something and don't think about how they choose to spend it.

Hugely unfair to give her siblings but not her. Maybe lower the amount if you need it, but you can’t give two without the other.

DS (14) has a part time job and we’ve kept giving him his pocket money as it doesn’t seem fair that that he’d lose money for being hard working. It also doesn’t seem fair that your oldest would never have had pocket money and the younger ones may have a good few years of it. Work out what you can afford and then split it equally 3 ways.

I'd maybe give her a tenner a month until she's 16. It's great she's already working, good for her I say as most kids these days don't, have zero work ethic or can't be bothered. But I'd say once she's legal age to get a proper job, no more pocket money.

You are thinking of giving them a lot IMO, I'd give £20/month to the teens and £10/month to the youngest (put it up to £20/month when he turns 12 or something) then you're being fair AND you'll have the rest to spend on household expenses.

If you don't give her anything then you are punishing her for having a job! And she's only 15, of course she splashes out on things you consider to be crap.
I'd give the two teenagers £15 each and the 10 year old £10 (up that to £15 when he's a teenager).

This - and you need to make it clear to the younger ones that they don't extra when they are older - they also need to go out and work if they want more.

DD2 had a gap year last year (needed a major operation). We continued to pay her 6th form allowance throughout the year even though she was working for some of it as it seemed unfair to stop paying her when she went out and got work, especially as older DC was getting a much bigger allowance as they were a barely working student at the time.

Yes thanks all that's what I'm thinking. I'm going to give her the same as her sister and encourage her to save a bit!

I think your amounts are very high. My 12 year old gets £10 a month and my 16 year old gets £40. He is currently looking for P/T work, but I will still give pocket money.

I think reduce what you are giving the others. At least to start with, as you never know your 10 year may piss their £10 a week up the wall. I know my child would of at 10. A few years later and they are much more mature and appreciative

My DD16 has just started working. Between me and her dad she gets about £40 a month pocket money (we are separated)

Her wages will be £330- £420 ish a month up depending how many hours she is contracted for. Potentially quite a lot more in holidays.

I have decided to carry on with pocket money but I have made it clear I expect 50% of her wages (and a lot more in holidays) to be put away for university / the travelling she wants to do after a levels.

This. I'd give them all something but probably not as much as you're planning.

The two teens should get the same and the younger one a little less.

I think it would be unfair if having a job impacts her pocket money, that will be a disincentive for her to work really! She should get the same from you as she would if she wasn't working.

Thanks everyone. I'm going to go with 30-40 a month for the older two and 20 for the younger one