Hi,
DH and I have been together 20 years, 2 dc's, mortgage ( nearly paid). We have always maintained separate finances. This was something that we both wanted and it has ( up until now anyway) worked out ok for us. We both like to have our own accounts as we have different interests etc.
It;s been quite an expensive 6 months for me and I have built up a bit of debt on my credit card - my total balance is now 5K. I have transferred it to a 0% card and have set up a payment to clear it within the interest free period. Old card is cut up etc etc. I am not someone who runs up debt cyclicallly.
DH found out about this and was really shitty with me, to the point of being angry. I don't get it. He has a car on finance ( mine is an older car bought outright) but that's fine, as that was his choice.
Given that we keep our finances separate, I don't feel that I need to ask permission to use my credit card, or to take out another to reduce interest etc. He has his own credit card and as far as I am concerned that's his business.
I know that this will seem alien to couples who pool finances, but we don't. I just don't feel that I need to justify myself to him over this. AIBU?