Is it true that if you re marry, your ex no longer has to pay you anything for your children?

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Ex H joked that he thinks I should marry my new boyfriend as he will be £300 richer each month. He says that you no longer have to pay out anything for the children if you re marry. Is this true?

I have no intentions of getting married btw, just wasn't aware of this and wondered if it was true.

I would definatly say it wasn't true at all

Load of codswallop! He is still responsible for maintaining his children...

They are still his children at the end of the day, so seems strange.

Biggest load of twaddle ever. If he were paying maintenance for you, then he would probably be able to stop (would need to see terms of court order though), but his financial responsibility for his children is not affected by your remarriage. He likes a larf doesn't he??

It's utter rubbish. He's responsible for providing for his children until they are legally adult.

I suspect he said that as a way to get you to admit or deny that you are planning to remarry. He's so transparent.

think about the old CSA married fathers who were proclaiming how crippled thy were beucae they still had t pay for their old family whilst having a new one

i actually knw a fella wo paid his exwife through the CSA and she was married.

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Thought it didn't sound right. regardless of whether I remarry or not, they are still his children! Have no idea where he got that one from!

I think if he wasnt involved and a new partner of yours adopted his children then his financial responsibility to them would end - Maybe he has heard something like that and got the wrong end of the stick?

maybe he has ben watching DALLAS re-runs and thinks that its kinda like some USA alimony?

knob head he is

he is talking crap.

I have re-married and my ex-h still has to pay me maintenance for our daughter.

rubbish.

er NO !!!! silly ar$e

I should show him this thread if he mentions it again!

He said to me "I would probably still pay you something though, but a bit less than I am now - maybe £200 rather than £300" Like he was being really good!

Dream on sunshine! He's probably just worried that, if you remarry, he might lose the soft gaff he has at your mum and dad's. And I do think this is just a fishing expedition on his part. What might your boys have been telling him? How lovely your new man is, how wonderfully he treats you??

Only if your new dh legally adopted the children

Although, my friend is divorced and putting off co-habiting with her new partner as it will mean that her exH will be allowed to reduce the amount of maintenance he pays (her mortgage is factored into the payments and if there is another earning adult in the household then it is assumed that they will be contributing toward the cost).

It is a reduction though and not a total veto on any payments !

Unless he is paying spousal maintenance (rare) or contributing to the mortgage the payments will remain the same. Child maintenance only stops if a new partner adopts the children.

dont tell him though

and then when you do get married

it will be a lovely surprise

and he will lay off the grief - as hopefully will you mother - becuase he doesnt have to pay you 300 quid...he thinks!

Don't know if the boys would have said much to him, but DS2 carries around a little stuffed dog that my new man brought round for him, and I know that DS1 has said to my mum "You should meet mummy's boyfriend, he's nice!" So it is possible he has been mentioned.

We have no marriage plans (don't think I would get married again!) & no plans to move in together just yet. we have only been together 6 months. I just didn't think there could be much truth in what ex H came out with & thougt I would check it out on here!

Only if your new DH adopts them - is that ammunition enough?

when i was married my xdh still paid maintenacne for his child from his previous marriage. even though he never saw him which annoyed me.