Family Law - anybody help?

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Hi,

Am having a few problems with my ex husband, who took me to court for access to my 4 kids, 2 are his and the other 2 are from a previous relationship. The intital contact started off as supervised in a contact centre and now he has to pick them up and take them down to Cornwall every holiday. This was all agreed in court back in June 2007, we also put in the contact order that we were not going to be lending him our car seats and that the kids were all to sleep in their own beds. The kids ages are 12, 11, 10 and 7. Since August he has become increasingly abusive towards myself and my partner and he is continually sending text messages to the phone that he speaks to the kids on. I have just received a text message on the phone saying that he is taking us back to court due to the fact, that apparently we are not looking after the kids properly. We have kept to the contact order to the letter and he hasn't, at Christmas time he was due to have the kids back to me at 4pm, he deliberately didn't leave Cornwall until lunchtime and turned up 3 hours late. Our CAFCASS reports have always been glowing reports as far as the care of the kids are concerned and we have never bad mouthed him to the kids and it is stated in the last CAFCASS report that this is the case. Do we have anything to worry about? Please put my fears to rest.

Should also add that he has accused me and my partner on many occasions of not looking after the kids properly during the period of the last court case. Surely the courts will look at that and see that the CAFCASS officer is content with what is going on at home. Also the schools the kids are at, are happy with the well being of the children. Can you tell I need some reassurance???

Firstly I'm no expert, but from your posts I can only assume he is doing it to cause trouble and stress for you, you have the cafcass reports, schools are on your side too. I really cannot see that he has any proof and so you will be fine. I know how stressful going through the familt court is though and understand the need for reassurance but I'm sure you will be fine with evidence in your favour

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I have no experience of family courts but from what you say I can't see that you have any reason to worry and it does seem that exh is trying to unbalance you. Why do you think he is behaving like this? Does he have a new family? What does he think he will gain out of it? Have you spoken to a solicitor?

Again, i don't think you need to worry but I can understand that it is worrying nonetheless.

Hi, just coming back to this. He ended up calling my home number last night and I ended up hanging up and ringing the police to log a nusiance call from him. This is now what I have been advised to do as even though in the contact order it does state that he is not to know my whereabouts, he isn't actually breaking the law, if he carries on ringing the house though we can bring about a harrassement case. It looks as if my mother and himself are working together to get the kids removed from my care as, my mother can't handle the fact that her grandkids are so far away from her, (she's very, very controlling)

Make sure you tell him that you find his behaviour upsetting and harrassing and want it to stop. Keep a record of everything. I would record any phone calls from him too, if I were you. It's best to have proof of what has been said.