What are my options?

[Trappedmumof3]

Hi all, I'm a mum of 3 kids aged 10 to 14. We live with their dad, my ex. He and I formally split up about 3 years ago. We didn't marry. We bought our home with a joint mortgage.

We split up because he comes across as being very mean, rude and lazy. He's not intentionally like that - we've come to realise over the years that he's autistic, but sadly his autism causes him to live his life in his own little bubble and he barely interacts with either myself or the kids, and if he does he's often critical or rude.

I've tried so hard to tolerate him but just can't do it for years more to come, so I find myself trapped as he absolutely refuses to sell the house and can't afford to buy me out of my half.

Anyone know what my options are? I can't see a way out but can't see how I can continue living with him without being driven further into despair.

Thanks so much for any advice you might have!

x

You can take it to court to force sale of the house

How would the house get split? He's adamant that as he's paid the bulk of the mortgage so far (I gave up my career to bring up the kids and just had part time jobs until they were all at school, and now on a low wage) that he will get the bulk of the money from the sale of the house. I thought that as I did the childcare that would get taken into account, but now I'm not so sure...

If you didn't marry, then it's 50-50.

You can force the sale of the house you don't need his permission- make an appointment with a solicitor.

The house is joint, you will get 50/50 split

If the house is held jointly it is 50:50. If it’s held as tenants in common it will be whatever proportion was agreed when you first bought the property

Do you own it as tenants in common, or as joint tenants?