Financial mediation

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I am about to have a joint mediation meeting to sort out finances of separation. I am very nervous as my ex has always made the financial decisions (mostly poorly) and thinks I am being economically irresponsible in divorcing him. I always give in when we had money issues. Any been through it? Can give me some advice on how to not be completely railroaded by him. Thanks

Hi, I’ve not been through it myself however my partner was going through a divorce with his ex when we first got together (although it was 10 years ago). Do you own a home? Do you have any assets? Do you have children? Is one of you going to stay in the marital home? Will one of you buy the other out? You need to get your finances in order and be able to show how much you earn, if you have savings, private pension or debts. My partner has a very good pension and traded this off for the house which his ex stayed in. Have a think about how much you would need to afford to live. Don’t agree to anything if you’re not happy with it and ask advice from the mediator. Good luck!

Thank you. I am just worrying about the negotiations mostly. Husband is very used to that sort of thing and is great at getting his own way. I find it hard to not back down and always give in to avoid a row.