Leaving this story here in a nutshell to see what others think. My partner is nearly 60 and still works in a very well paid job. I work in a low paid job and am in a process of changing career through new qualification. I am over a decade his junior. He only speaks about money and calculates everything even the price of a dinner we have at home in the evening. He will calculate how much the pasta or rice portion cost on our plate, divides the price of everything, it is pathetic yet he will go and spend thousands on another watch and the following day moan he has all these loans and a mortgage to pay. We do not own a property together. I refused. I wanted to keep everything separate and not consolidate as I have no children and he has children and grandchildren. He was insisting on getting married, I did not want to. The whole story with him and money is very confusing for me. He would moan about prices of everything yet book up a holiday with his male friends. We have not been anywhere on holiday together for 6 years. We do not go out, do not enjoy anything. He moans about everything - money, people, jobs, traffic, me. We do not speak about anything intellectual or arty, uplifting because if the topic is not money he gets bored instantly. We have not been intimate for 3 years now and he treats me with more and more disrespect. I noticed that his attitude towards me now is such that because I do not earn a lot and there is a financial disparity between us, I must make up for it by being his servant. When I ask him to help me with little jobs around the house there is always a lot of puffing and punting and he starts an argument. I become to realise that perhaps because I do not earn a lot of money I am no use to him, he sees me as a less of a person and discards me. I wonder if others here know of similar situations. What would you do? Why are some men like this? What is truly behind such behaviour?