dsd thinks she has it hard having to study, so yes if she lived with us we would make her pay her own way, but not because we dont care but because she needs to learn.
We want her to have a good education so she has choices. Not giving up her alevels to waitress in pizza hut.
As far as are ex yes she does put a roof over head, we live near dss schhol, he pops into me at lunchtime as sex has forgotton do do him lunch, he eats with us most evenings, and we buy the majority of the kids clothes as they end up in ill fitting clothes else.
This isnt because she is on the bread line both her and new husband work ft they have an immaculate large house, buy they come first.
This however isnt about what they do with the money, we have never not paid, even now we will support dsd through her education, but we feel she needs to learn that everything in life isnt handed to her on a plate, its hard, and you have to work hard.
We don't however want the csa on our back if we have no choice but to pay for her to doss.
She only intends working a few hours a week, as she feels tired after her lessons so doesnt want to go straight to work, and doesnt want to do many evenings as that is when bf is about and she would miss him, and weekends she needs time for herself to socilise else she would end up lonely.
I wish i could be like that towards work and be fed cloth, roof over my head and money in my pocket.