When we first went to see a mortgage broker many years ago, she gave us an A4 pierce of paper with lists of different sections, we were slightly shocked, but we “sort of” listened, we did buy a house in a cheaper area instead of a flat in the pricier street consoling ourselves that we were freehold, extra bedroom, garden, extra downstairs room and we could park a small car on the front. None of this came with the flat, and then in the early 90s when the mortgage was 16% for a month or two (complete killer for most) we had a lodger and another friend stayed for a couple of months.
On that list, we had to write the cost of the mortgage monthly - we didn’t know, we didn’t have one!!
Rates? (Now council tax) look online for an average and divide by 52.
Cars. She reckoned if you added up your petrol, insurance and road tax, then use that figure for service/future replacement.
Utilitys. Phone, electric, gas, water, do u need sky?, internet etc
Clothing allowance - we both got uniforms for work, I still do, it saves a fortune.
Haircuts
Holidays
Christmas/Birthday/Weddings/Hen and Stag dos.
Children?? We put of having those for a few years!!
Pets
Our first property was wonderful, very low outgoings, we had passive incomes from it too, we didn’t need a car, practically walked or cycled everywhere.
it was when we moved to our next home which was/is beautiful for the next stage in our lives that I fully understood what mortgage means. Mort is French for death and gage is French for debt I think. “Debt for Life” I believe.
if you can overpay every month, the debt comes down quicker, but you are only young once and so are your children. It’s a hard balancing act, very few of us get right.
I wish you the best of luck in your next house, and if it means having paid for 15-20 year old cars (I absolutely adored my £350 ford escort even though it totally disintegrated, it was loved, and she was mine for 12.5years, and now i love my £1200 beetle, it has heating, real air conditioning - not rust holes, I don’t have to park at the top of a hill any more to bump start her - the escort was like that for 5-6years, much to the embarrassment of the children, but she (the escort) taught them to drive and got them to every club and social event on time.
it’s easy to say, but have loads of fun and memories in a less expensive property/car if you can, because you want your children to be able to do everything that’s offered to them, but it does involve money. Good Luck