Hello everyone.
I have recently written about my partner and father of my 3 kids stealing money from me. Couple years ago I found out he was taking money off my card and cash was disappearing around the house, I cornered him and threatened police involvement (as they have access to atm cameras). He admitted, said sorry, I threw him out but eventually given him another chance mainly for the sake of our children (ages 5, 4 and 1) and under condition this never happened ever again for the sake of our family.
We recently came back from holiday abroad and I had some euros left over which I left laying around the house for few days as there was so much to take care of once we got back. Next thing I know the money is gone and he don't know where it is. I told him because of the past I cannot trust it's not him and told him to sleep in a different bedroom. I searched entire house but nothing. So I ended up getting several hidden cameras set around the house and this morning as soon as he woke it recorded him reaching under the bed in the bedroom he sleeps in (there is all my old stuff there I never reach out for) and pulling out and counting what very much looked like the cash, putting it in his trouser pocket and continuing with his day. I am 99.9% sure it's the missing cash, so I wonder how to go about the situation.
I can confront him here and now but it's Sunday and all kids here with us and god knows how he going to react so I would rather do it once I send my two oldest to school tomorrow and take him some public place for 'the talk'
Will tell him to return the money to me (he would probably have it on him as he knows I am constantly searching for them in the house) there and then and to return after his belongings in a near future once I have put them all aside. I am slightly scared how he will react as have a history of violent ex before him, hence want to do it in public space. Fees so bad for our children but I know there is no way I can trust this person and who knows what else he would steal from me. Before seeing the recording this morning I still thought I must have put it somewhere and forgot it (I don't suffer from best memory).
Anyone has any advice on this situation? Any suggestions how to handle all this mess please?
Short background on us: dated for 10 years, lived together in the house I own for 7 and had 3 children in the past 5 years. I have been a sole breadwinner, he never contributed to anything at all (silly me thought if I had a partner who can do it for me I would have appreciated if they took care of me since I make decent amount of money).
Thank you for all the advice