Looking for some unbiased advice. My ex and I split recently and he pays £550 a month maintenance to me for our Daughter. We split with no debt. He is now in a lot of debt and is a gambler. When we were together I dealt with the money and we had our own spending money to ensure bills were paid. He is on a salary of over £60 k a year. Lives with his parents and has no bills to pay there. So all his money is going on his debts and living costs, smoking, probably gambling too. I will be better off by about £400 a month from next Feb as I will have paid off a payment for something then. I have said we can maybe re consider the maintenance amount then and he is not pushing for this he just said we will see. I'm on a good wage and my bills come to about £1200 a month. I have around £1400 a month disposable income.
Should we drop the maintenance? It seems unfair that he is skint every month and I can afford holidays etc but I work full time and sometimes extra shifts to buy nice things. I think I'd feel better about dropping it if he had his own place as he'd need the extra money for that. I'm worried he would get himself in more debt or gamble it. I spent a lot of the money on my Daughter, she has everything she needs and does clubs, goes on weekends away and holidays. What would you do? It's not really my business what he spends his money on but at the same time I am not sure if lowering the maintenance will be a big help as he probably won't move out of his parents house.
Sorry for the long post. Any input appreciated.