I think this is more of a moral dilemma than a money matter, but both really and want some outside perspectives please.
My dad became disabled two years ago and I have been his carer ever since. I am just about to pass my driving test and he has offered to buy me a car. Money wise he is much better off than I am, I can afford the insurance and general runnings of the car but would have to do some serious savings first for the car itself.
From a mental capacity side of things, he does all his own budgeting and money management, but I do help a lot with all the forms, contacting banks, finalising purchases. I have access to all his money for buying him shopping, topping up the electric meter, that sort of thing. I don't know the exact ins and outs of his finances but I do know he lives comfortably and like I say, is in a better position than I am.
I am 100% sure if this was three years ago before I was caring for him that he still would of offered to buy the car, and parents do things like help with house deposits/pay for driving lessons etc all the time.
But something about a vulnerable, elderly man giving a large sum of money to the person who helps him organise that money and make purchases, makes me feel a little.. wrong? Almost like I'm stealing and taking advantage.
Am I just overthinking this? Can I accept or is it wrong?