Please no people bashing me telling me I'm entitled. I have been struggling financially for the past five years but am not poor, just frustrated.
After dating my DP for five years we have both just found out how rich his parents are.
We knew they weren't poor but had no idea they were this wealthy, but they're Euromillions rich and have a 7 figure income each year.
My DP is quite indifferent about it. I feel really weird about it.
They are from Asia (trying to be vague) and sent DP to a UK university, which is where we met.
They are lovely people and we all get along. They can be selectively generous but they are also very stingy for such wealthy people. When we go out they insist on paying and we can eat what we like, but the places are all restaurants where mains are about £10, and if its more they will comment on how expensive it is making it awkward.
Due to their culture it's insulting to offer to pay if you're younger, I have made that mistake. I am very grateful that they pay.
They all go away every Christmas. DP, his siblings, and the parents. It's been cancelled due to covid for a few years, but I was invited right before the pandemic. This will be the second year they actually go.
The year I went, we hired two air bnb's becuase it was cheaper than a large one all together. We hired one miserable looking studio for his parents. Then we hired a one bedroom which was a little dingy where DP and I got the bedroom and his siblings were on the pull out sofa. His siblings were content but his parents complained that their room was horrible. I just don't understand with that amount of money why they wouldn't just at least stay in a normal place that reflected your home standards. My partner and I paid our own travel which cost more than the air bnb for the week (we had to travel the furthest.) His parents paid for accommodation.
I have been asked by the parents with my DP to book this years accommodation and they will pay us back. It will cost us £800 each with flights with their chosen destination that we are paying for. I have found three beautiful places to book with come to £23 per person, per night (I think an absolute steal). One has an undisrupted sea view on the beach, two have a private pool, all have enough bedrooms, bathrooms, and a great living space.
I have just been told that this is too expensive and that beds in hostels go for £4 per person. I offered to pay mine and DP share, but it was shot down as being a waste of money anyway. I just don't understand this mindset.
They visited earlier this year (we had no idea then of their income) and they stayed in my one bedroom apartment, with me on the sofa and my parter not he floor. They stayed here for three weeks and it was very uncomfortable. The mum then went on a shopping spree and spent over £10k. The dad hired a very very expensive car for a week.
I fell so sad for my partner how hard he works and how much he struggles. I would just do anything to make life easier for him. Due to cost of living, he's had to quit the gym, and we're thinking of selling the car. His parents know he's struggling.
I'm dreaming of winning the lotto tonight to be able to treat everyone I love. It's hard for me to understand how his parents can watch him suffer.
My DP sees it as their money and they can do what they like with it, and I agree, but I still don't understand their mindset.
They apparently just want to pass a giant inheritance onto their kids and expect their kids to not spend it and pass it onto their kids.