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Inheritance and possible divorce

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tootiefruitie6 · 09/09/2022 09:03

I wondered if anybody can give me some advice. I am due to inherit a large sum of money from a grandparent shortly. However my marriage is rocky and my husband can be quite aggressive and I am nervous in case we divorce and what it might mean for my inheritance as I would like to keep it safe and protected. Does anyone know if this is possible and how I would go about it? Or would he automatically be able to gain some of it should we divorce? Thank you.

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UneasyMe · 09/09/2022 10:31

Btw, if your marriage is rocky and your husband is aggressive, please start mentally preparing yourself for separation and divorce. Don’t paper over the cracks / distract yourself with house projects. Get out and live a peaceful life.

Sushi7 · 09/09/2022 11:12

tootiefruitie6 · 09/09/2022 09:47

Thanks all. I am based in Surrey. I don't envisage splitting and would actually ideally like to use atleast some of the money to extend our house but wondered for example if I would need some legally binding document showing I put more money into the property so that I could take it back should we divorce. I will perhaps need to get some advice. Thanks

If your marriage is rocky and your husband is aggressive (mentioned in your OP) then why don’t you envisage splitting? Why are you still with him if you’re unhappy and he’s aggressive? If you use the inheritance money on a property you share then you’ll lose the money because you’ll split the house when you divorce.

FloydPepper · 09/09/2022 11:17

This thread has a slightly different slant to a recent one where a husband received an inheritance and was castigated by most posters for not sharing it.

there were suspicions on that thread that a woman receiving inheritance would be advised not to share it.

UneasyMe · 09/09/2022 11:44

FloydPepper · 09/09/2022 11:17

This thread has a slightly different slant to a recent one where a husband received an inheritance and was castigated by most posters for not sharing it.

there were suspicions on that thread that a woman receiving inheritance would be advised not to share it.

I didn’t see the other thread but a key factor here is that OP is unhappy in her marriage. If a marriage is happy then it’s completely different

thisshizagain · 09/09/2022 12:49

I inherited fully 2 years after divorce finalised and ex (earning roughly x3 me) had a crack at the money.

We'd had a clean break with no claim on either part and so the only way he could feasibly benefit was by trying to get kids 50:50 to avoid his monthly maintenance. We did mediation which was v expensive and didn't really work. What helped me a lot was paying roughly £125 for a solicitor consultation which made me feel much more secure.

I'd say, get legal advice asap and if you have any doubt about your marriage lasting, divorce asap if protecting that money would make a difference to you and your kids. Good luck

shieldmaiden7 · 09/09/2022 13:05

Finances weren't sorted before the divorce because I didn't have any. He didn't let me work a day in my life and all my benefits went into his account. I got my first bank account at 30 years old when I found the courage to walk away from him after years of abuse. Soo.. before think I was just an idiot for not sorting it. I genuinely had nothing. Not a penny, I had to start from the bottom and survived of 13p tin of spaghetti hoops and slept in my car for weeks. My inheritance came out the blue.

alwayscheery · 10/09/2022 10:30

tootiefruitie6 · 09/09/2022 09:47

Thanks all. I am based in Surrey. I don't envisage splitting and would actually ideally like to use atleast some of the money to extend our house but wondered for example if I would need some legally binding document showing I put more money into the property so that I could take it back should we divorce. I will perhaps need to get some advice. Thanks

I would advise keeping the money completely separate, once you intermingle the money with family money it would definitely go in the divorce pot.

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