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Not paying full CMS rate

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clpsmum · 02/07/2022 07:24

My ex has been sent a letter by CMS telling him he is to
Pay an amount which is higher than the amount he currently pays. However he is ignoring letter and continuing to pay the rate he always did (this is about 25% less). Is there anything I can do? Will CMS change it to collect and pay if I contact them?

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Ratcarguy407 · 03/07/2022 14:24

As a parent who pays maintenance through CMO, I don’t think conforming to the new amount is optional. You would need to contact CMS telling them that the new amount is not being paid. If they do need to collect the payment from your ex, they will charge accordingly.

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clpsmum · 03/07/2022 14:29

@Ratcarguy407 I don't think it's optional either. He is just being an idiot tbh

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Ratcarguy407 · 03/07/2022 14:31

clpsmum · 03/07/2022 14:29

@Ratcarguy407 I don't think it's optional either. He is just being an idiot tbh

I’m curious, how do you feel about the amount currently being paid, do you feel it’s enough, or would the new amount be better for you? Do you feel that the higher amount is still affordable for your ex?

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clpsmum · 03/07/2022 19:10

The higher amount is enough and he can well afford it. The CMS are currently investigating as the amount that he has said he is earning does not correspond with what he is being paid. We will see what happens. This is a man that hasn't seen his children in two years, didn't want to pay any maintenance for his disabled child at all and ignores all of their birthdays and christmases etc

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Ratcarguy407 · 03/07/2022 20:37

clpsmum · 03/07/2022 19:10

The higher amount is enough and he can well afford it. The CMS are currently investigating as the amount that he has said he is earning does not correspond with what he is being paid. We will see what happens. This is a man that hasn't seen his children in two years, didn't want to pay any maintenance for his disabled child at all and ignores all of their birthdays and christmases etc

Ah…I’m sorry to hear of your situation. My experience of paying maintenance and access has been quite different.

I pay maintenance to two separate exes, for three children in total. Initially I had agreed an amount with both parties which I duly paid on a monthly basis, along with a few extras here and there when required. Then they both decided to approach CMS, who revised both amounts to their better (which I do not dispute), but I can now no longer afford to pay for any extras.

As for access, the Mother of my eldest has all but alienated me from them and I’m in no position to afford legal representation, nor am I entitled to legal aid to try and rectify this.I’m also not the type of person to upset, or distress my child for my own gain (access). Then the Mother of my two younger kids broke up with me just over five years ago. Since, she has woven a web of lies in regard to the kids and made it extremely difficult for me to see them.

I hope everything works out for you.

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