How much should we all pay?

[moneymelon]

Husband and I, two adult children all working earning similar amounts.

Husband and I have separate bank accounts and I pay my half of household running costs to his account monthly. He then pays all food and household bills.

The children pay their rent to my husbands account directly. It's a quarter of what I pay each because they are saving.

My question is should I be paying half given that he also receives money from the other adults in the house? Shouldn't we be subtracting the money from the other adults contribution from the household running costs total then he and i paying half each of what's left?

I'm trying to be fair to him and also myself.

Tell him that at the moment he is only paying 1/2 of what you are

He needs to give you some of what he has saved

Then you need to subtract what your children are paying and then halve that.

You need transparency.

With the cost of living ever going up the amounts of who pays what may need to increase - well apart from yours.

Bank yourself several months of paying zero to compensate for you overpaying!!

Obviously he should be deducting what the dc pay before splitting the rest with you!

Tell the children to pay you for as many months as DH had them pay him, and you will see if you can save/

I read the first post as:

OP pays half of all household bills
DC together pay a quarter of all household bills
All transferred to DH and DH then pays all household bills and all food.

I am not clear if op and the dc are also paying towards food. If not, I think the DH is probably spending more than any other contributor. But if everyone is contributing to food then I think each dc should pay 1/8 and op and her dh should pay 3/8 each.

I’d always thought that if two people were married surely all the money from both incomes is pooled i.e you both own each others money and property, no? Or do I understand most married couples have their own money and split costs? I never knew that was a thing.

So your paying 50% then both children pay 1/4 of that, which is 12.5% of total. That comes to 75%, so your husband is only making up the remaining 25%.

That's definitely unfair, your putting in twice as much as him.

Sorry forgot the actual question was how much should you pay.

I'd subtract the children's contribution, then you and DH split the remaining 75%, so you would each pay 37.5%

(or what your currently paying minuse what one of the kids pay, if that's easier to work out)

You seem to be married to a selfish prick, OP

You say you pay half of the household running costs, does that include food, or is that half of bills, e.g. electricity, gas, council tax, insurance, car costs, etc.. if it’s the latter then how much does he pay for food for everyone? Could it be he’s paying for all the food, and you and the children are paying towards the other bills, and that what he pays equals what you pay, when you add in the quarter he pays towards non food bills? Just trying to understand the exact situation. If what you pay includes a contribution towards food, then, yes, he could be taking the proverbial.

We need more context. What is your 50%? What is your children's 25% each in money?

Also do you earn less than your DH?

You and DH both pay half. Child A send you their contribution, Child B sends your husband their contribution

Yes that's what I was thinking.
Also reduce yours by 12.5% for the amount of months he's been receiving the extra and put it into savings.

You and DH pay 3/8 and DC pay 1/8
each. I wouldn’t get into a discussion about just reduce the amount you transfer.