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I hate my life

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Lpl12458 · 31/05/2022 21:45

First time posting so please be gentle.

I'm a single Mum to 2. Eldest starts Secondary School this September, youngest started school this year.
Up until 2 years ago, I worked 30 hours a week, paid for child care and kept everything going.
Fast forward to now and things couldn't be any different. Every single hour of every single day is a struggle. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia last September, I've also got rheumatoid arthritis, along with anxiety, depression, binge eating disorder and multiple allergies.
I just about manage to work 15 hours a week but I've had to spread the hours over more days instead of 2 full days.
I have no support from one 'dad' and the other is very minimal as he lives 70 miles away and seems to not be able to spend more than 48 hours with our child.
I'm in debt up to my eyeballs, wages aren't increasing, universal credit are a massive joke. My landlord has just increased my rent by £55 a month, my car is on its way out.
My eldest has multiple food allergies - 12 and counting, food shopping is extremely difficult, he has a massive fear of trying new foods and therefore we have to but the exact same brands all the time, plus many of his allergens are in one brand and not another.
I had to lie to a couple of the Mums today about a day out later in the week because I don't have the money to go, so I've made an excuse that we have 'other plans'
As a family we have had to deal with 3 deaths in the last 8 weeks.
Is this what my life is going to be like forever?
Fat, alone, mentally and physically exhausted with absolutely nothing to look forward to?
I see no way out ever...

OP posts:
Babyroobs · 31/05/2022 21:50

If you earn less than 16 x nmw per week you can hand in sick notes and ask to be referred for a work capability assessment. If awarded limited capability for work and work related activity then you would get extra money on your claim which would offset not being able to work more hours. Also have you considered claiming PIP? If you received a PIP award then you can have a work capability assessment regardless of earnings. I know a number of people who have been awarded PIP with a diagnosis of fibro, however it is not based on the diagnosis but how your illness affects you. It would definitely be worth a try. Are you under a Rheumatologist?

DetectiveReflective784 · 01/06/2022 08:30

Are the father's paying you child maintenance ?

If not put in claims via CSA/ CMA

danni0509 · 01/06/2022 08:33

I was just going to say PIP for yourself. Apply now and get the ball rolling, and what about the father? Is he paying you?

Sorry you’re struggling Flowers

Ukholidaysaregreat · 01/06/2022 08:33

Suggest free days out at local parks with sandwiches. Then you can meet people for low cost. It is nice to be able to socialise. Sorry you are struggling at the moment. Sounds really tough. Would it be worth going to Citizens Advice to check you are getting everything you are entitled to?

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