Selling kids old clothes etc and keeping the money from other partner

[Jodiebrighton]

Hi, my ex bf should hopefully be leaving soon as I'm processing paperwork to buy him out. He has taken bags of kids clothes and toys that the kids don't use anymore and said him and his new gf are doing a car boot sale. I said are you splitting the profits with me and he said he bought the clothes so no. Can he take toys and clothes from the house and sell them without my consent??

He is picking his car up with bags and bags of stuff as we speak. I've told him he can't do this and he says he doesn't care.

If he bought them and the kids don’t use them any more it sounds fair.

Whose house is it? Lock the door from the inside then change them when he goes out. If he complains reply “I don’t care”

It’s definitely twatish behaviour but sounds like it’s still his house too and shared kids stuff so I don’t think you can really stop him especially if they’re old

I wouldnt expect my ex to split proceeds of old stuff he sells that belong to our shared Ds and I haven’t ever split my proceeds with him ( not that I’ve made much!)

sorry tho because it does sound like he’s a twat with his attitude

If a couple is married and divorcing, taking physical assets and selling them would be looked at the same way as emptying bank accounts. Each person is entitled to a fair split, typically half, so if one person is taking more that is problematic. Ultimately, you might hope to get those prematurely taken assets considered in the final allocation, but it doesn’t always happen.

if you aren’t married, I don’t know that the presumption of shared physical assets exists at all.

Is it worth it? How much is he realistically going to make? Pick your battles.

What about a compromise you each take half of clothes toys and sell and keep What you make?

Seriously??? That is a really stupid piece of advice to give to anyone.

OP please do not even think about this

We have both bought clothes and toys over the years. We are not married and agreed to Split the stuff in the house evenly when he leaves. He is taking what he wants now even if it's old clothes and toys. What if he starts taking more stuff when I'm not here.

Op are you going to give him half of anything you sell in the future that was bought for your children when together? If not then let this one go.
or parcel up anything you will want to sell and lock it into your car.

What a twat. Realistically he isn't going to get much for them, but you could involve the police? Personally, if it was old, outgrown clothes and toys, let him do the clearing.

I wasn't going to sell old stuff until it was divided up or left here. I'm going to have less than £1000 in my account when he goes so selling old items was something to help me with some small extra money.

I can't talk to him anymore as he is after w reaction. I'll do as you say and pick my battles and ignore this.

But it will be remembered.

If he's being this difficult now there's a chance he could get even more so as things progress. Recommend you remove any financial or legal documents (eg birth certificates and passports for the children, your passport, copies of anything to do with your property. Change your own personal bank account passwords and consider moving half of the funds from any joint account into yours. He would not be the first man to drain accounts on leaving. Don't tell him you are doing this.

Remove anything which were gifts from him to you (and anything given to you by others) and ensure these are all kept with someone trustworthy, out of your home.

As soon as he's gone change all your other passwords, eg Sky, Netflix, Amazon, your router...

Good luck OP. 🌹

He will get peanuts at a car boot. Sounds like a prick though, go on and be happy