We are married 10 years, have 3years old son. Past two years were quite difficult for us- we were furloughed so lost almost half of the salaries, did some extra jobs, struggled with childcare,etc.
I ended up with few months sickness (problems with my knee, arthritis, I was not able to walk few weeks).
I had to reduce my hours, I didn't have any other choice. Started to claim UC.
We don't have any extra money in the end of the month. We are ok with food,rent, basic clothes. But we can't afford even couple of days holiday in UK, we can't afford car, we can't afford meals out, etc.
Personally, I don't see it as a big problem- as soon as my health will be better, I'll do full time again and things will be better.The most important thing- we have food, we have rented house.
My husband started to complain about his life, that he is working a lot and can't afford any treats.
Yes,he is doing 48hrs weekly night shifts and I really appreciate that.
Today we had a massive argument that he doesn't understand where the money goes to, he has only £50 left in his account. I am the person who takes care of all bills, nursery fees,etc. I am so upset, I didn't buy anything for myself since last October. I'm trying to save every single penny, looking for offers,etc. He told me that we need to "move forward with finances", but I really can't do more with my health at the moment. I'm just scare to go to the shop, I know I'll be blamed that I bought something unecessary (for example pencils for my son who loves to draw).
I was expecting some kind of support, I supported him during his gambling issue when he lost all our savings, I helped him to recover. I can't believe the same person blaming me for £1 pencils and trying to make me feel bad for doing part time only. I think his dreams are just too big now, he wants to buy a flat when we are not able to save even £100/month....
I just need someone to say if I'm being unreasonable... I'm so upset...