I feel you op.
The CMS are only ever good if the non resident parent wants to pay.
If they don't well they don't pay and the CMS just send a letter asking them to pay. And repeat.
I've been to court. Had it court ordered what he should pay. He went self employed. Then he claimed benefits and they didn't take a penny off his benefits to send for his daughter. Now he's back to being self employed and is hiding money but do they care? No.
The debt is now over £10k but do they do anything? No, just send another letter.
They are a piss take.
I just can't understand why the government doesn't get a grip of these non payers and do something about it. Now we having rising costs for everything.
Now is the time to do it. But they won't and non residents who don't be pay should be
Checked like a dbs check and if they are on the bad list should have penalties I.e fines, employers agree to employee them but with a percentage to clear the debt and so on.
But that won't happen in my lifetime because as it predominantly affects women we just have to suck it up.
There used to be a stigma against single mums but no such stigma against non payers, usually men as they usually have some excuse along the lines of "I can't be sure it's being spent on my child" or "I haven't seen them for years because the other parent won't let me"
There is no excuse.
I'be gotten myself all worked up now about the injustice of it all.