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Anyone move area/house & regret it?

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barbara2019 · 29/12/2021 20:57

After moving out of London back to our hometown, I have been absolutely miserable. Currently pregnant with 2nd & it’s a move we’ve discussed since pre covid and put off for so long as we loved the little part of London we lived in - leafy, village like, strong sense of community. We needed more space after living in a small 2 bed flat, and I went back to work 5 days a week after maternity, which I never thought I’d do. Now we’ve moved in I just miss all the small things in my daily routine, walking our dog, having lovely parks on doorstep. I just feel like all we were thinking about is getting as bigger house as we can for money, a bit further out from town…and not thinking about location and what really made us happy. I’m about to go on maternity and Im just overthinking everything and dreading maternity. To get anywhere like playgrounds we have to walk on such a busy main road and it stresses me out as our area in London felt like it was more leafy and quiet than here. I’m just worried we’ve made a huge mistake and will be miserable… should have bought a smaller house but on a new build site with a better community feel/more access to parks for small children and better more sociable dog walking. I can’t speak to family or friends about it as they just think I’m crazy and should be grateful

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sleepyhoglet · 29/12/2021 21:28

Where have you moved to?

firefly123 · 29/12/2021 23:20

Sounds really tough. We are thinking of moving out of London for more space, quiet, cleaner air etc but posts like yours make me think we should stay put!!! Where have moved to?

barbara2019 · 30/12/2021 01:29

Moved to kent but it’s not necessarily that I want to move back to London now we made the right choice to move out just the choice of location specifically. I never considered a new build area/plot as I grew up in proper rural countryside so I thought that was what I’d want but but now I see the benefit of tens build plots with small children. I didn’t want to live in the middle of the town as wanted to move out of a densely populated areas. There are benefits such as not being overlooked, more peaceful up a quiet lane we live, just miss the network/community of old area. I guess it’s a case of getting used to new area and I haven’t had the chance yet with working full time and pregnancy

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userisi2 · 30/12/2021 09:46

I'm assuming this is still a relatively recent move? We moved from a village we loved to a cheaper town, we needed a bigger house and wanted more options a town gives as the kids get bigger.

It was tough at first, life is much trickier as school is across town so an unpleasant trek in a car when it used to be a 2 min walk. But it's been a year now and I'm adjusting, school run is short term.

We love the house and we gain more from the bigger house everyday than we did in that one element of the school run.

I would give it time to adjust, especially with a baby it's an emotionally loaded time, but don't undervalue the importance of space, you made a logical decision and hopefully you'll settle into it.

barbara2019 · 30/12/2021 21:33

@userisi2 thank you for the response, it’s only been 3 months and I’m due anytime from a week so I’m sure emotions are a big play I’m sure. Everything felt a lot easier in London, but we had zero space in the flat. Hoping it is just a case of getting used to it, I just couldn’t work out why all my other friends who have moved out are so so happy and I’m the only one finding it tough.

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firefly123 · 30/12/2021 21:41

It will get easier. Early days

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