Whose money?

[isacurlypotatoaquaver]

Person A and B are a couple living together.
Person A works full time.
Person B doesn't work but receives benefits as part of UC.
B drives a car, A doesn't. Car is used for shopping errands and to take A to and from work and take dc to and from school.
A funds the insuarance, MOT, etc. Both A and B fund petrol.
A funds school etc.
Both A and B fund food shopping. And utilities.

When A gets paid into their account by their employer, B says it's both of their money.

But whose money is it?

Depends on the relationship and expectations.
A&B need to discuss this.

All income is family money and is shared. Particularly when children are concerned.
This conversation should have happened before DC were born.

Impossible to say without out knowing more about whose children they are and why B doesn't work......

I would say it's A's money.
I am married with 2 kids. We have always split bills 50/50 out of our joint account, but we get paid into our own accounts then transfer a set amount into the joint account. We then keep whatever is left individually. I don't know if it makes a difference but we are both financially comfortable so never have to think about who pays for what. Very fortunate I know. If money was tighter then I expect I may think differently.

I assume it's a joint claim? In that case all money is shared as A will also be sharing Bs UC money. If not a joint claim then it's fraud.

In saying that, I am assuming children are joint. I do really think that B should get a job though, especially if dc are school age.

I don't know but id be getting rid of the arse hole.

It’s A’s money. A may be willing to share is, A may even be morally obliged to share it - but bottom line, it’s still A’s money.

It's person A's money.
If the children are also A's children, then A has an obligation to provide for them.
If A and B are not married, then B has no claim to the money at all, and should carefully evaluate their own situation to decide how they can improve their own financial security, particularly to consider what they will do if their relationship with A breaks down.

Not married. Both a and b kids.
B doesn't work due to training for a career, a funds this

But what’s your actual issue here?
Your follow up post doesn’t help.
Legally, A earns the money, they own it. End of.

Are you posting because A thinks that and B doesn’t like it, but actually there is not problem with access to money?
Or is B being left short of money and believes the relationship is financially abusive?

It’s A’s money alright, but that can create one hell of a dysfunctional power dynamic for some couples.

Who is taking care of the kids, school runs etc and doing all the unpaid family work? Is this being shared 50/50, does A take days off when kids are sick or for appointments etc? I think A can really only claim everything they earn is theirs if they are truly taking the full 50% of all the unpaid work & mental load of the family. If they are not and therefore benefiting from B's unpaid labour, then suggesting everything they earn is theirs is financial abuse.