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DP's ex is threatening to take DSC to live abroad.

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mummynumber2 · 30/11/2007 21:11

I've just posted this on 'step parenting' but it occurs to me that this may be a more appropriate place.
Just wondering if anyone knows where we stand legally.
Here's the situation...
DP's ex is the main carer of DSC. Until a few months ago they were with us about 1/2 the time but she drastically reduced this as she worked out that she could get more money through the CSA. She also told the CSA that DP had not been contributing financially to DSC, which he always has, so we're in the process of appealing the CSA's decision on payments and arrears as well as going to court so that we can continue to see DSC as much as we used to.
DP's ex recently told him that if he presists with the appeal etc. she will take DSC and move abroad to her native country. I'm absolutely terrified that she will just up and go, she's quite an unstable, irrational person. It really isn't in DSC's best interest to do this for so many reasons. She's taking them abroad this weekend but insists that they will be back on Monday. I feel sick just thinking about it. What can we do if she doesn't bring them back

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smallwhitecat · 30/11/2007 21:14

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mummynumber2 · 30/11/2007 21:22

Thanks for answering. Yes, they were married and he has parental responsibility. But she is the main carer. DP is actually going to represent himself in court. Although we have got some advice from various lawyers.

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mummynumber2 · 30/11/2007 21:24

Sorry, posted before finished!
Meant we have got some advice from various lawyers regarding other matters so will get back to them tomorrow. It's just too late to contact them now and they are going early tomorrow morning.

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smallwhitecat · 30/11/2007 21:26

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mummynumber2 · 30/11/2007 21:33

No, we don't qualify for legal aid. We could just about afford some legal advice and we will pay for it if it all gets too much for DP to do it alone. Until now it all seemed quite straight forward and having spoken to other people who have done it alone we thought we could do it.
My worry is that she will just go without even telling us.

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