Thanks all for the many different things to think about, even the unsolicited family planning advice 😆 let’s face it, that one is always going to be a very personal decision but I appreciate everyone taking the time to leave their perspectives.
I think there is a broad consensus that cash savings need to be higher before overpaying one’s mortgage, and that OPing may be less sensible than focusing on other investments and pensions. I think this is pretty sensible and I’m getting a bit ahead of myself with other financial goals so will stick to building the cash savings for now.
In terms of your point Hollow Talk re whether we can live off DH’s salary - we can, we did for several years until about six months ago as I was a SAHM. We were pretty frugal by necessity. As we have more coming in now we have been enjoying having a bit more cash so we haven’t been saving ALL of my salary and just living off one - we now allow ourselves 20% each of our salaries to keep as personal money (I do save some of mine though) and we had a lovely week away in Scotland in June and have booked the same next June so we put money in a holiday pot each month now - we didn’t go on holidays when I didn’t work.
In terms of budget, our joint budget (i.e. the remaining 80% of our salaries + child benefit) is £2,900-3,000 depending what DH gets that month. So we are about £1,900 with monthly bills, food, petrol, other household essentials. The rest gets split between fun money, different “pots” (Christmas/birthdays, holiday, kids, home & garden, annual bills) and longer term savings like the emergency fund and new car fund.
So my question is when you calculate the 3-6 months emergency fund, do you work that out as 3-6 months income (£3,500 per month or so for us) or 3-6 months of bare-bone expenses (£2,000 each month) under the logic that you wouldn’t be contributing to savings or frivolities if unemployed? Or somewhere in between? How do you all work your emergency funds out?