Can’t cancel child maintenance

[PumpkinKlNG]

I’ve tried to cancel my child maintenance since may but they still keep sending me payments, I’ve called twice since yet they say they will close it but I still keep getting payments, I got another text today. How do I cancel it?

I think you've cut off your nose to spite your face there.

In what way? £7 doesn’t pay for anything it doesn’t change anything

But could he not try in the future
'Oh l tried to give your mum money for you but she refused'....

I would do the same op.

I do understand the frustration OP but £7 a week is over £350 a year! That would pay for Christmas presents/birthday presents and treats.

I know you say you don't need it but it's for the kids.... I honestly think cancelling it is actually worse than accepting it and will make him even smugger!

he loves paying me £7 for 4 children, he finds it hilariousI

What an idiot...It's a reflection of his income which is clearly extremely low.

I don’t blame you for cancelling it, whoever came up with such a ridiculous amount.

Not taking the money doesn't stop him from being a nasty pig. I totally see your frustration. My xh is also a nasty pig but dont prioritise your hatred of him over the fact that its money. Imagine putting all those £7.00s away and reaching for them in January when everyone is skint.

@MichelleScarn

But could he not try in the future 'Oh l tried to give your mum money for you but she refused'....

I thought the same thing. I would just route it into a savings account and never look at it so you don't have to see/ think about it.

For heavens sake. Bank it. £84 year over a few years can be stashed away towards driving lessons or a nice day out.

@megletthesecond

For heavens sake. Bank it. £84 year over a few years can be stashed away towards driving lessons or a nice day out.

OP says it's £7 a week so £364 a year. A paltry amount for 4 kids but put into savings each year would add up!

Agree you’ve played right into his hands here - you’ve now given him the ability to say “oh well I’ve tried to pay maintenance but my ex refuses to accept it”.

If I were you I’d have done what PP suggested, divert it to an ISA gaining interest to pay for a future treat or cost.

He can’t claim he “tried” it was forcefully taken out of his benefits. He didn’t get a choice.

would rather say stick your money than have him thinking he contributed

He hasn’t anyway, if he’s on benefits then taxpayers are funding it anyway not him.

And when he goes back to work won't you just have to restart the claim ?

He hasn’t worked in 5 years. I don’t hold any hope to that happening. He once told me to cancel cm and he would pay me directly at that point I took the chance as he wasn’t paying anything anyway (cms told me he wasn’t working or claiming benefits) when I cancelled it he told me he didn’t believe me and refused to even call cms to check. So yes he can claim he tried but it would be a lie.

If someone gave you £84 youd be delighted. Imagine if it was £84 of amazon vouchers. Dont confuse the fact that hes a bastard with the fa t it is money. Even if you bought £84 of lottery tickets, better than him spending it on himself.

Why is he going to find paying you nothing less amusing than paying you £7?
That makes no sense.
He’ll love the satisfaction of you giving up 🤷🏻‍♀️

Good then he can’t tell anyone he does pay, he can live with knowing that

Honestly op. I totally get your anger but like a pp said, itll pay for a take away or something.

How about you accept it, stick it in a separate bank account, and at the end of the year, use it to take you all on a cracking day out at his expense ?

You can gloat internally about how he’s finally paid for something useful, while not saying anything to the kids of course.

Op im sorry to trouble you again but ive been giving this thread way too much headspace. Imagine one day one of your children really wants something and you just can't afford it. Imagine knowing that you could help your child by going to the £7 a month bank account where youd be quietly saving the money your pig xh has given you?

OP I don't blame you are all. In your position I'd do the same. It's an insult accepting £7 a week for 4 kids and allows him to say he pays for his kids.

I go through a collect and pay for my child via a DoE order. Some months it's never paid. Other months I am sent 20 odd pound which I am told I need to accept, but I never receive what he should be paying. They never want to help. One particular year I had 9 months of no payments. I had to contact him about something and he threw in my face he has rights and pays his way. I was enraged. Honestly if I could have afforded to I would have told him to shove the maintenance up his arse. His payments are a pittance and an insult and no where near comparable to what I pay out every month. But because his employer sends a few quid (some months I've had £6 odd despite continuous full time employment - have involved MP numerous times and I'm told nothing can be done if thats all they send) he can be satisfied he is fulfilling his parental duty.

I actually went on there today to follow up a complaint about the erratic and constant lower monthly payments. Nothings been done as usual but I did notice the paying parent now can request special expenses be considered when calculating their payment. I had to read it a few times as I thought it meant the resident parent could request for additional things to be considered. No! The paying parent can make the request to lower the income they base calculations off.

The system is an utter disgrace and so unbalanced.

All other poster saying you should keep accepting the payment. Come on, this is for 4 children, over a year! It doesn't even cover 1 child! I am so annoyed for you OP

@coodawoodashooda

No it wouldn't. £28 is worth having. Yes it is an insult. The whole bastard lot of them should be put in jail. Its still £28.00.

28?? £7 per week between 4 so 1.75 a week per child. Having a laugh really