Split with ex 6yrs ago. Initial agreement £100 a month plus halves on uniform and trips. Got DS 15 and DD 17 so 11 and 9 at time of split.
Ex would withhold money etc, tell kids yes he happy to pay half for expensive school trips then when money due just refuse to pay up. He was abusive during the 16 years we were together, never physical, just spent all money on alcohol and going out, so I got a part time evening job in a pub, he would then message me calling me all sorts etc etc. Finally chucked him out with £3000 cash and both family cars. Cash was from a touring caravan we owned that we sold. Anyway back to it, once DS went to secondary I asked for £150 a month because bus fares are £10 a week each. Basically last year money in dribs and drabs, nothing thing for months, kids bdays November and December so thought he would buy them clothes etc….they got £20 in a card. So I went to the CMS but regardless that I explained that for the past 6years I’ve had nothing but abuse off him they made me go direct pay. In June ex messaged DD saying I have no morals taking money off him, that myself and my new partner are loaded so why should he pay, emotionally blackmailing her by saying he’s gonna loose his car because he has to pay….surprise surprise julys payment never happened. I reported it on the 9th July but heard nothing since from CMS even acknowledging that they will move it onto collect and pay. Anybody had similar?
Also any advice about how to go about stopping him messaging DD about me and calling me all the names under the sun would be good. The kids haven’t seen him since may, and he saw them 4 times last year, his choice not theirs or mine