AIBU

[sandi80]

Hi,

My husband and I both have our own bank accounts and card etc. One of our credit cards is in my name but he is a second card holder. I also sometimes use his cards and paypal etc without necessarily asking him first, however this is usually for small items etc.

He has spend about 2k on my credit card over the last couple of months. We have been having a new bathroom etc. I told him I wasn't happy that he had not asked me first. He said he was surprised as he considered it a joint card and that he had alreayd started making payments to clear the 2k ( this is true). He also threw the fact that I use his cards at me.

AIBU?

If you use each other's cards, which you clearly do, and you are both aware of the cost of the bathroom, which I assume you are, I think you've left yourself open to this happening.

It certainly would have been polite for him to mention it, but if the house is a joint asset, it doesn't have any real impact.

Unless he has maxed his card out on something dodgy and is now using your card to cover the fact.

It might be time for each of you to have sole use of your cards.