Feeding an extra mouth

[Purplespirit88]

Hello. I'm in a difficult position at the moment. My fiancé's sister has moved in with us. She doesn't work. Gets £600 in UC and most of that goes onto her car (on finance) she's constantly wanting my partners attention, he normally jumps to her aid. It's bringing me down. Me and my children are suffering with no funds. Literally above water living. Shes not offered to give us anything. It's really putting a wedge between me and my partner. To the point I'm considering moving out with my two boys. If nothing improves. I'm currently working and my partner is about to go back to college. I feel I'm just there to clean, bring up our children, entertain them ( as my partner hardly ever comes on outings with our boys) I literally carry every one and feel taking for granted.

What a cheek he has to expect you to put up with this. Either she starts paying something or he gets a part time job to help .I mean college wont be fill time .no way would my kids suffer just so my sister could scroungers.

Either she goes or they both do. Although I'm not sure why you don't kick them both out, seeing as neither is contributing to their keep.

She should be contributing to the household and returning the car if it is on finance. Put your foot down and tell your partner how you feel.

If you are ignored then go with your gut instinct and kick them out. Why should you and your boys move out when you contribute to the house.

Yep do it. Sounds like you potentially have two freeloaders on your hands.

You are working, he is about to start college so should be doing most of the childcare and housework until it happens. Sister should be paying her way. Yanbu.

Yes she should def be contributing as well as helpinv with the cooking/cleaning. Why has she moved in, does she have health issues of some kind? Def should not have expensive car if that means she can't pay her way. What would she usually do to pay for herself if you weren't paying for her?

How is she spending almost £600p/m on a car when she is unemployed 😮😮

Tell her she either contributes or has to move out and make it clear it is not up for discussion

@aprilanne

What a cheek he has to expect you to put up with this. Either she starts paying something or he gets a part time job to help .I mean college wont be fill time .no way would my kids suffer just so my sister could scroungers.

I know. It's massively getting me down. I know they will both kick off if I make a drastic choose to go with boys. To be honest I'd rather go, and have fresh start. I agree she should get rid of the car! They both do nothing, my partner is always doing some sort of DIY or something to his or her car. She moved in- as she got kicked out of her mums, for same situation, at the time I felt sorry for her, their mum is toxic. However I cannot continue to live this way. She plays the mental health card

OP
Move out and leave them to it.
Do the preparations on the down low and then just get up and go.
They don’t respect you, you don’t need to give them any warning or they would only try to hinder you.

@Bonheurdupasse

OP Move out and leave them to it. Do the preparations on the down low and then just get up and go. They don’t respect you, you don’t need to give them any warning or they would only try to hinder you.

Thank you. Yes I agree. I can't go on like this much longer

@Didiusfalco

Yep do it. Sounds like you potentially have two freeloaders on your hands.

I agree. It's frustrating

Leave them both. Or kick them out if it's your place. They are both dead weights who are holding you back. It sounds like you get no respect or quality time with your partner.

Your children and you are suffering so be the master of your own destiny and start afresh. You won't regret it. As a PP said, make preparations quietly, say nothing, and then just go, or else you will get talked / guilted into staying.

@GingerFigs

Leave them both. Or kick them out if it's your place. They are both dead weights who are holding you back. It sounds like you get no respect or quality time with your partner.

Your children and you are suffering so be the master of your own destiny and start afresh. You won't regret it. As a PP said, make preparations quietly, say nothing, and then just go, or else you will get talked / guilted into staying.

Thank you. Yes that's the plan. My kids come first- clearly they have both shown they aren't to them