What do I do now, am thinking of getting divorced?

[Boogalooblue]

I am seriously thinking of asking my husband to leave our home and marriage

I am worried though as to the financial implication of this to me and the children.

We are lucky in that we own outright our home.

I am a SAHM with 4 young children.

Would I have to sell our house first or can I claim benefits and still live here?

The house is worth in the region of £400k, but if I had to sell I would still have to find somewhere to house us all and within walking distance of the school - I want as little upheaval for the dcs as pos so definitely don't want to move schools.

What benefits would I be eligible for?

I never thought my life would turn out like this , I know that if we didn't have children then we would not be together and I can't cope with our relationship any more.

Poor you, I don't know the answers but wanted to say sorry xx

How old are your children? It might have an impact on benefits etc.

The oldest child is almost 7 and the youngest is almost 2.

I am still so shocked that my whole world is about to change

Yes I think there may be a case for benefits, someone must know more about this...sorry I'm not much help...would it help to talk about why you're considering this? I'm listening x

The relationship between me and h has pretty much broken down, I am not sure that a)it can be repaired and b) I want to even try .

I am concerned as to how I will manage financially as I have not worked since I conceived number 1 and even before that I was not particularly well paid.

Life is a pile of shit at the moment

God, it sounds horrible for you. Nothing so lonely as being with someone where things aren't working.
I think you're brave to want to put a stop to the situation, whatever the implications. There are a lot of us on the Lone parents board who manage without a partner's support - I get benefit as I have a four year old and a baby.
I don't see why it should be any different for you, except of course the house will come into it somehow.
My general impression is that usually the parent who has the children gets to stay in the house - but your situation might involve different circumstances/issues around this.

Please stick around for anyone who might know more about this. I know I have seen threads relating to your position before.