Inheritance/ probate advice needed

[funnybones1234]

My GM died over 2 years ago - lots of sibling rivalry and drama has erupted since, frankly I'm sick of hearing my DM talk about it.
Anyways there are 4 children (none of which are able to communicate with each other because of the arguments)
2 of the DC were made executors of the will but won't reveal any details to my DM or uncle.
Yesterday my DM received a letter from a solicitor saying that my GM has left X amount and details of how to get in touch with the solicitors to obtain the money.
It is a set amount not a % and refers to an absolute and final amount (much much smaller than the total estate value)
Am I right that probate has been granted to have received this letter? (I've checked the public record and still not published)
My DM wants to argue it out and I just want her to take it and move on. She's adamant probate hasn't been granted but if the beneficiaries have been contacted it must have right?

Any advice very much welcome!!

Surely the solicitors would tell her that? No idea how long it takes for a will to make its way onto the public record once probate has been granted.

Sounds very wearing! Is there any chance once the money has been distributed the dust will settle and your mother will think and talk about it less?

You can check online to see if probate has been granted and view a copy of the will itself if it has been.

Oh sorry just seen you've checked.

Ask the solicitors for a copy of the will.

That sounds very upsetting. Hope
It gets sorted. I can understand why the GP only had two of the children as executors if they can't get on.

Beneficiaries are not usually entitled to get a copy of the Will unless the Executors consent to it. The figure stated in the letter could be equivalent to a percentage amount once the sums are done...but just not stated that way in the letter. Why doesn't your DM just contact/email the person sent her the letter & ask if the Probate is granted & whatever other questions she has? She may not get all the answers, such as who else received what from GM ...but at least she will get info on Probate & timeframe for completion /payment. You'll get lots of replies on here...which will just be guesswork (includingmine) as who knows except persons involved why 2 years has elapsed betw GM death & contact ftom legal firm or what is in Will except Executors & firm dealing with your GM estate. I think you are correct about moving on...I think a person can leave what they have to whomever they wish in their Will and, save where there is a concern about mental incapacity or duress, that it is their own business. Spouses & minor children of course should be entitled to support & hence can claim against estate if not provided for in a Will...but after that people shouldn't automatically expect or feel entitled to benefit. Lovely if you do but otherwise go & make your own way in the world...

She will, in time , be able to get a copy from .gov.uk. It may be that there were outstanding costs to settle from the estate.

I think without any details she cannot be sure at all of ‘total value of the estate’ etc as it’s all speculation without knowing the full accounts. The estate may be much less than she thinks, if there were charges on a property to be paid etc.

She just needs to contact the solicitor with the questions. If it’s being handled by a solicitor it’s unlikely anything other than the will being followed is happening because solicitors are bound by professional standards to uphold the letter of the law.

Thanks everyone for your advice. Agree she needs to call the solicitors but it's like talking to a brick wall. It's such a sad situation where the fall out between the siblings is escalating so much. I'm just drained listening to it. Genuinely feel like it's going to end so bad for DM but she's blinkered - feels like it's less about the money and more about trying to get one over on her siblings. Horrible to watch