we still have about 3-5 years to go on the mortgage but barring a divorce we will be free in about 2011 or very soon after
Here's our list
waiting until we were in our mid thirties to get married and start a family.
not spending a fortune on our wedding but still managing a full church do with 90 guests for the reception.
buying practical cars rather than the lovely ones we could have afforded and not buying brand new cars.
not spending money on the latest fashion in clothes, designer or otherwise and not paying designer prices for accessories like sunglasses etc.
not buying a lot of CDs or any gadgets like ipods/MP3 players or PSP or Wii and all the games that you then want to play on them.
cutting out and using money off coupons and only paying a premium for "luxury" food if it actually tastes better.
not having any holidays abroad since the dc's arrived - they don't care or understand about any of that stuff yet.
accepting second hand baby equipment bought cheaply or given to us and buying baby/kids clothing/equipment/toys on ebay or in charity shops.
wearing some of dh's larger clothes around the house when pregnant so I needed less maternity clothes and friends/ebay came up trumps again on those.
not going out together much as a couple since the dcs arrived unless we have family babysitting for free (we do put on a nice supper spread for them though in return).
making do with old furniture painted up or re-varnished and buying second hand sofas etc.
not having loads of pets
not smoking (neither dh or I have ever smoked)
not paying interest charges on anything because we had to have it before we had the funds to purchase it outright
going back to work quite quickly after having the dc's, not to pay the mortgage funnily enough but because I just needed to go back to work but even after childcare fees it made a big difference to our mortgage
making sure mine and dh's employers took up the childcare voucher scheme by lobbying them and providing more information and proving to them that it didn't cost them anything (£2,000 each year paid off the mortgage from this saving alone)
having a current account mortgage so that any extra monies reduce the balance and it makes you think twice about even spending your christmas money from your parents because after you've banked the cheque you really like seeing that the mortgage has dropped below a certain point and seeing if you can try really hard to keep it that way until the next payday.
I suppose a lot of my points are about the fact that I want to see the mortgage dropping rather than see myself looking good in that new coat this winter or in those new boots when I'm sure there's a perfectly good pair at the back of the wardrobe somewhere.
I'm pretty sure the other mums at ds's school must think that we are just scraping by or that I don't care too much about my appearance but ds always has clean smart uniform and I know that our cars are paid for and we only have a few years of mortgage left to pay off. So what if I haven't had a new winter coat for 5 years. I still have 3 perfectly acceptable alternatives to pull out of the cupboard as I always bought classic designs rather than this season's fashion so they don't look dated.