Hello,
I come to this country 8 years ago with my husband and two kids, hopping for the better education for the kids. Things did not go well, he got affair with his staff at work so we are getting divorce.
I had a good job at home but for the future of the kids, we moved even I know I will not get the same kind of job here. I am doing at the retails and get pay as almost the minimum hour payment
I sold all of the houses at home and we planned to buy house here in the UK. He is a main income when we come here, I transferred all the money from the houses as well as the money from my parents to his account so we know how much we have (he also got some money from his aunt when she died)
Beside that, my family also give us money to buy car..
But when we separate, he took everything (money, cars, event all of the le creuset, carpet..basiclly everything, and leave us with all the cheap stuff) , and we 3 had to sleep on the floor with no money and eat can food from the food bank. And the money that he kept, he used that for holiday with his mistress and transfer money around and take lot of cash out (each time with 400-£500 - said that to pay for his personal debt - he lie) . He also took all the valuable items when I was not at home which I now try to get back but he said he gave them to the charity
I started the divorce with lawyer that I paid but latter on I could not afford so I have legal aid which very slow and not very active, I guess because I do not pay so I dont get a good service.
My husband is earning around £60k per year and now only want to pay the minimum pay for child maintenance. When we were at the mediation he agreed to pay child maintenance plus clothing, clubs, music lessons, swimming, football etc but he ended up not pay for any of them and even the maintenance was not fully paid.
My question are:
- how to get him to pay for what he posted to pay as I would like to keep the children have the similar life with the had before. I am here on my own without family so there is no support from them at all, I can not ask for finance either because they did give us all of their money to help with buying house in the UK which never happened.
- I also want to fight for what he still from the family but he managed to hide all the money away, now, he also said the good are given away (I guess he either sold them or give to his family as his family are here), any one have experience about this
Sorry for my writing as this is my second language, and thank you for your help