Friendship/money issue - advice needed

[MarianLM]

oday 17:28 MarianLM

Any advice please? My 12 year old child wants to give a new friend a gift (£6 digital game pass for a game they play online together) The child can’t buy this for himself as his parents say he has to save his money. I feel uncomfortable about him doing this but am I being unfair stifling his generosity? There is no coercion at play. Grateful for any views on this!

I think, whilst it’s lovely and generous of your DC, the friends parents may not feel happy about it so would probably advise DC against it.

Very kind of your son but if the child's parents have said no, that must be respected.

You’re probably not getting the full story - the friend’s parents say he has to save his money, but actually it’s probably an objection to the game itself? How do they play online together if the friend can’t access the game - is it more of an enhancement pack or something?

Tbh would his parents necessarily know? I don't monitor my sons spending of his pocket money and I think 6 pounds falls into that category.

Perhaps talk to the parents. They might not want their child to be playing this game, either at all or for an extended period.

Or they might be concerned about large bills being run up or see spending on games as a waste of money.

Your son's offer is kind, but it's not one that should be made against his friends parents wishes.

Thank you all for the advice - really helpful and backed up my own instinct x